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Old 08-20-2012, 01:59 AM
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My wife has been on meds for the last decade for rapid cycling bi-polar. You cant really tell except that she has boundary issues with folks. I love her dearly.

The last few days she has been getting manic. And not just a little a LOT. Today however it went overboard, she started talking about how I wasn't a god, but i would be, screaming for people to listen to her, that they didn't understand, but they would. Oh and her phone was a emerging AI. And that she wanted me to back it up, and not allow it to update ever.

Then it got worse. Lots of screaming, threats to break our promises to each other if I didn't listen. And the listening....just didn't make sense. She asked me if I understood, told me of course I didn't, not now, but I would. That now she was formal, swore she would stop screaming on her fathers grave, etc...the proceeded to do more. This went on for HOURS. I tried to redirect her, in the hopes that maybe we could get her help on our own and resolve it...that wasn't happening.

I could go on. Suffice it to say my wife lost it. I called for help, while she was screaming this stuff. The 911 operator asked me to go to another room. When I did and closed the door she started beating on the door. It was like a scene from psycho. She then left before the police arrived.

The police arrive, look for her in the back yard, then we see a neighbor bringing her to the cops. She was screaming at him about if he understood. He did understand...that she was probably the person the police and ambulance were for.

So The police took her away in an ambulance, they had to restrain her apparently. The emergency room sedated her and are trying to get her into the psych ward Monday morning. This has been one of her biggest fears was being sent there...but I honestly didn't know what else to do. I have no idea if she will ever forgive me. I have no idea if she can get OK. These are the things that terrify me.

So they sedated her at 5, about 4-5 hrs later she calls, she wants me to take her home, and to bring her her phone as she has to ask the AI some questions. She insists she is alright, and I will understand. And that if I ask our housemate that she can explain it all. (our housemates answer is-shes crazy and i am moving out).

So...my kids were supposed to come back from visiting their mom for the summer today. I called her and asked her to keep them for a couple days as wife had a medical issue. Wifes two older sons (one just turned 18) were present for the beginning of this. they're old enough to survive, but a tad traumatized.

She is in the hospital, they will do a mental eval and keep her 1-5 days. I don't know what happens then.

So...I don't know whats next, or how this story will end. I love my wife and will stand by her.

Anyone have any advice or experiences to help me understand how this might go?
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Old 08-20-2012, 03:15 AM
 
Location: southern born and southern bred
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so very sorry to read of someone(well,the both of you) going through this. Mental illness is so misunderstood and scary to those observing it. I've no idea what will happen from here,no more than you know. But please be there for her as you have been.
There are some excellent medications to help her. Therapy as well.

What medications is she on? Apparently they are not working properly. It may take trial and error unfortunately to determine which medication works for her.

Next time may I suggest you call her physician as soon as the manic episodes begin so that they don't escalate to tthis level.

Please update as to how you both are doing. God Bless you both.
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Old 08-20-2012, 06:33 AM
 
Location: Mayberry
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, sounds like she definitely needs a medication review and some changes, so glad you are supportive.
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Old 08-20-2012, 07:35 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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I have a casual acquaintance and this sounds very much like something that just happened to her. In her case, it was a problem with the medications they had prescribed. She too is bi-polar. She is in her 20's and I was so surprised to hear what had happened to her. Her mother told me about a medication that she was taking and I looked it up on the internet and made a copy for her mother who was very upset and confused about what had happened. PLEASE, everyone that is taking meds, understand the side effects and make sure your loved ones understand them too so that if you start to suffer severe side effects, you and/or they will understand what is happening and get help immediately. As it turns out, after just a few days in the hospital with meds/therapy, she was back home and feeling/looking so much better and had been given a complete explanation of what had happened with her and her medication had been changed. Medications for both physical and mental health issues can cause some very serious side effects and often the person taking them is not well informed and doesn't seek help.

I feel the OP did what was necessary and I am guessing he will be forgiven when it all gets sorted out. You can only do the best that you can do in a situation and having to make a quick judgement call, I would always go with what makes people as safe as possible. Sometimes, what is necessary to do is not the easiest or most pleasant.
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Old 08-20-2012, 10:24 AM
 
Location: somewhere in the swamps of Jersey
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You did the right thing. I know that this is a trying time. She needs to have her medication adjusted in the hospital. It will take a few days. She probably won't remember all the details of you both went thru. When she comes home, she needs to see the doctor for very regular follow-up appointments, even if she says she is OK. Stress can sometimes cause someone to get manicy. She needs to stay on her medication, too, even if she is doing OK. All my best to you.
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Old 08-21-2012, 01:29 AM
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So an update. She is MUCH MUCH better today. Psychiatrist thinks its a meds issue - specifically that they prescribed anti-depressants with her mood stabilizers....and add in that she may have taken too many of them since she forgot she took them.

She is coherent, understands just how messed up the other day was. Doesn't like the fact of where she is, but understands the why and is voluntarily staying there while the meds get sorted out and fixed.

Very good day today compared to yesterday.
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Old 08-21-2012, 02:32 AM
 
Location: somewhere in the swamps of Jersey
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I will be praying for both of you. Wonderful news! Remember that it is a chronic illness that needs daily attention just like diabetes or high blood pressure. All the best.
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Old 08-21-2012, 03:57 AM
 
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Also, remember that what you see and say is "you really can't tell, except for a boundry issue" is not what other people see. I work with families of psychiatric patients and many behaviors become the "norm" when in society they are not the "norm". So, she has a bit of a boundary issue.... well, that boundary issue can cause a huge problem, on many levels.

You say this has been going on for a decade and you are asking what is next? With the description I would think her being on a psych unit is not the first time. The best thing for you and her and both of your sanity, make sure she takes her meds. Really, this is top priority and the when she starts in with... "I don't feel I need them, I feel great..." THAT is when she needs them even more.

Does she see a psychiatrist regularly? I hope things settle down. This is very difficult to live with and VERY hard for children to see and live with on a daily basis. Remember, this is not just about her, but the ENTIRE family. It EFFECTS everyone.
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Old 08-21-2012, 07:11 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Also, remember that what you see and say is "you really can't tell, except for a boundry issue" is not what other people see. I work with families of psychiatric patients and many behaviors become the "norm" when in society they are not the "norm". So, she has a bit of a boundary issue.... well, that boundary issue can cause a huge problem, on many levels.

You say this has been going on for a decade and you are asking what is next? With the description I would think her being on a psych unit is not the first time. The best thing for you and her and both of your sanity, make sure she takes her meds. Really, this is top priority and the when she starts in with... "I don't feel I need them, I feel great..." THAT is when she needs them even more.

Does she see a psychiatrist regularly? I hope things settle down. This is very difficult to live with and VERY hard for children to see and live with on a daily basis. Remember, this is not just about her, but the ENTIRE family. It EFFECTS everyone.
I agree with all these points.

Good luck,
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Old 08-21-2012, 07:15 PM
 
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Glad to see she is doing better and it can hopefully be fixed with the medication issue being resolved.

Best wishes to you both.

God Bless
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