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This happened to me personally, when I was about 5 or 6 yrs old.
I had this boy I was friends with at that time, his mother was a friend my my mother, so it was common for them to come over our house, this was before I started school, and I know this boys family lived a few streets over, however I dont remember going to school with him, so I dont know if they moved away or he went to another school somewhere in the area.
I do remember, the times he and his mother would come over, we would play with 'Bristle Blocks' (if anyone remembers those?), and other toys, but one thing that always happened, we would go into the bathroom together and he would 'initiate' oral, and I believe I would do the same ( Im a little fuzzy on that though, its been so long, I cannot remember everything). I do know we were about the same age, so it wasnt a case of him being older and forcing me to do something I didnt want to do.
I cannot even recall if it was something I was comfortable doing, Im not really sure I want to know anything more about this either. Im just curious if this sounds like normal childhood behavior among 2 boys of that age?
It is curious we attempted to hide in the bathroom while doing this though, so that alone makes me think we were ashamed, or maybe we knew it was wrong, I dont know?
Its funny, Im 45 yr old and havent thought about this AT ALL, but recently it sort of 'popped' into my mind, and its bothering me a little bit.
I cannot remember my parents ever talking to me about such things or questioning me about it, so I dont think they knew about it.
Any comments or thoughts are appreciated in helping me deal with this.
IDK, OP. To some extent, kids more or less around that age start to have sexual curiosity. They're curious about their bodies. Some kids may explore their bodies with a friend. As to oral sex, that seems a bit precocious for 5/6. But I'm not an expert. And probably the two of you had an idea that it might be "wrong", because you may have been told at an even younger age, that those were "private" parts.
You might have gotten more informed responses (or stronger opinions, anyway, for better or for worse) posting on the Parenting forum. But maybe you wanted to avoid that.
IDK, OP. To some extent, kids more or less around that age start to have sexual curiosity. They're curious about their bodies. Some kids may explore their bodies with a friend. As to oral sex, that seems a bit precocious for 5/6. But I'm not an expert. And probably the two of you had an idea that it might be "wrong", because you may have been told at an even younger age, that those were "private" parts.
You might have gotten more informed responses (or stronger opinions, anyway, for better or for worse) posting on the Parenting forum. But maybe you wanted to avoid that.
Honestly I wasnt sure which board to put it on, general mental health seemed the most appropriate, but I can see how parenting board may have been better.
I have VERY few memories of my childhood, its just little bits and pieces here and there, its not until I reached about 10, 11, 12 yrs old, that I have more extensive memories from. Someone once told me that was a sign that my mind was 'blacking bad or traumatic things' out for my own benefit, but others have told me its normal for people not to have many childhood memories, so..?
I have VERY few memories of my childhood, its just little bits and pieces here and there, its not until I reached about 10, 11, 12 yrs old, that I have more extensive memories from.
Its funny, Im 45 yr old and havent thought about this AT ALL, but recently it sort of 'popped' into my mind, and its bothering me a little bit.
I cannot remember my parents ever talking to me about such things or questioning me about it, so I dont think they knew about it.
Any comments or thoughts are appreciated in helping me deal with this.
It shouldn't bother you...it's long over, nothing to be bothered about.
You were both very young and young children sometimes do things of a "sexual nature", though that was quite extreme. Depending on what a child has seen, or heard, it usually sparks a curiosity of it's own, and is shared with another curious little friend.
What parent WOULD talk to a young child about that (though they possibly might warn you about older people) this child was your same age...and what child is EVER going to tell mom or dad what they've been up to...especially that.
It's sounds very normal to me...go back to not thinking about it at all
Honestly I wasnt sure which board to put it on, general mental health seemed the most appropriate, but I can see how parenting board may have been better.
I have VERY few memories of my childhood, its just little bits and pieces here and there, its not until I reached about 10, 11, 12 yrs old, that I have more extensive memories from. Someone once told me that was a sign that my mind was 'blacking bad or traumatic things' out for my own benefit, but others have told me its normal for people not to have many childhood memories, so..?
I don't know. I have lots of early childhood memories. I even have memories from when I was a baby and when I was acquiring language, which is when--around 1 yr. old + ? But I know that's unusual. I have friends who told me long ago about certain childhood memories, who, 15 years later, remember nothing. I'm the only one who remembers about their childhood, lol.
So I don't know. Kinda seems sad not to remember a large chunk of your life, generally speaking. No memories of kindergarten and first grade? No memories of early Christmas celebrations, Christmas cookies or holiday gatherings or opening presents? No memories of your birthdays at 5, 6 or 7? Think. Maybe something will come to you. Learning the alphabet in 1st grade? Learning numbers, or coloring, in kindergarten?
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