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Old 08-29-2012, 11:53 AM
 
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I have been depressed most of life, I believe, as was my mother, who actually was hospitalized for about a month in the 1970s with loss of eyesight diagnosed at that time as "hysterical blindness." She was of the opinion a good Christian won't get depressed.

When I talk to friends and even medical professionals about this I get a variety of reactions, mostly of the pooh-pooh variety--get out and socialize, volunteer, exercise, stop thinking about yourself--these only work slightly for me (exercising) or not at all. I don't think people understand. Really--being around people makes it worse! I'm in my mid-60s and as soon as I can get on Medicare next year, I'm going to ask for medication. I work three days a week and I have to "psych up" to work and then; the rest of the time I simply shut down and vegetate around the apartment.

How do others handle well-meaning, but clueless, people on anxiety and depression problems?
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Old 08-29-2012, 05:05 PM
 
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I have been depressed most of life, I believe, as was my mother, who actually was hospitalized for about a month in the 1970s with loss of eyesight diagnosed at that time as "hysterical blindness." She was of the opinion a good Christian won't get depressed.

When I talk to friends and even medical professionals about this I get a variety of reactions, mostly of the pooh-pooh variety--get out and socialize, volunteer, exercise, stop thinking about yourself--these only work slightly for me (exercising) or not at all. I don't think people understand. Really--being around people makes it worse! I'm in my mid-60s and as soon as I can get on Medicare next year, I'm going to ask for medication. I work three days a week and I have to "psych up" to work and then; the rest of the time I simply shut down and vegetate around the apartment.

How do others handle well-meaning, but clueless, people on anxiety and depression problems?
I dealt with this a LOT when first diagnosed with panic disorder and my first major depressive episode ("luckily", I do not have the constant, ongoing form of depression like my father has). There wasn't a lot of information about these types of things in the 90s. Even with the more recent depressive episodes, I still got the occasional well-meaning "just get outside and get some fresh air, you don't need medication!" advice. Or "you need to talk about it and get your feelings out, then you'll feel better." It's very frustrating. My depressive episodes were not situational, they were clinical. When I went through an episode, it wasn't because I was dumped, or had a rough week at work, it was because my brain chemistry went wonky and I wasn't capable of rational thought. I've only had 3 major depressive episodes in my life, and all were at a time when there was absolutely no reason for me to be "depressed" in the non-clinical sense.

Usually, what I tell someone to try to put it into perspective is, "You wouldn't tell someone with a broken leg to just 'shake it off', or someone with diabetes to just 'get over it, you don't need insulin', so why would you tell someone with a chemical imbalance basically the same thing?" Unfortunately, it's one of those things that people just don't understand unless they've been through it, personally. I always wished there was a different name for it than "depression", because it's kind of a misnomer. So many people equate "depression" with "sadness (over some external factor)", which is something everyone has experienced and can relate to. Clinical depression is different. It's numbing, at least to me. I'm emotionless. Nothing's fun, nothing's... anything. Life has no color, and I just want to be alone when I'm going through it. Then my meds kick in and life starts to brighten up again, and hope returns. It's chemical. I should add that an extreme situational depression can trigger a clinical depression, however. PTSD and the like.

I'm on medication, I've accepted that I probably will be for life, and I haven't had any recurrences since finding the right combination. (knock wood).

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Old 08-29-2012, 05:08 PM
 
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Depression is a disease... Diseases can be treated with medication. Please do not hesitate to ask your dr. for it. And ignore people comments. They are not doctors.

Many hugs and I hope you feel better soon.
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