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Old 11-30-2012, 05:54 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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When I said that I didn't feel that anyone could be asexual I was using the word "literally", which would mean that you actually do not have the physiologic parts to engage in the sex act...my understanding of your use is that asexual would mean: one just flat out does not desire, nor want sex, and if that's the case I agree that waaaaay too much hulabaloo is made about the supposed "importance" of an act that no other animal alive engages in other than for propagation...Some people can be very contented and happy, and not want, nor miss sex as part of their lives....I know some myself, and they are no less than anyone else I know.

Oh. Well yes, that is what I meant by the definition. I know you think it's alright but as I said that's not the world we live in, you are considered "less than," as compared to other people. I notice hey put themselves on a pedestal over these stupid things too.
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Old 12-01-2012, 08:05 PM
 
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Yes, but I'm thinking people like that would always... have some reason for thinking they're better than you...you know, you couldn't win for losing?..Their loss if they would judge someone on that.
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Old 12-02-2012, 12:09 PM
 
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Yes, but I'm thinking people like that would always... have some reason for thinking they're better than you...you know, you couldn't win for losing?..Their loss if they would judge someone on that.

their loss would be easier, if the world wasn't run by them, but it is. All I'm saying is there's way more that are judgmental about it then not. I seen that for myself.
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Old 12-02-2012, 12:25 PM
 
Location: In a house
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their loss would be easier, if the world wasn't run by them, but it is. All I'm saying is there's way more that are judgmental about it then not. I seen that for myself.
I'm more likely to judge someone on poor sentence structure or grammar when their primary language is English, than I am the fact that they are (or are not) interested in sex.

Now, if you were to ask my opinion on sex between humans and potted begonias, I might get a tad judgmental.
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Old 12-02-2012, 12:43 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I'm more likely to judge someone on poor sentence structure or grammar when their primary language is English, than I am the fact that they are (or are not) interested in sex.

Now, if you were to ask my opinion on sex between humans and potted begonias, I might get a tad judgmental.

Was that directed to be a slam at my sentencing and grammar? If so, I don't 'get' vague references because I say what I mean outright....I am L.D. and do what I can, none of it to impress you though. That's what happens when you judge someone, without knowing jack squat about them besides the fact that their primary language is English ....Go figure.
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Old 12-03-2012, 08:27 AM
 
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their loss would be easier, if the world wasn't run by them, but it is. All I'm saying is there's way more that are judgmental about it then not. I seen that for myself.
You're right...I've seen it too
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Old 12-03-2012, 08:05 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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You're right...I've seen it too

It's a shame but that's just how it goes, I guess. Who cares anyways. The 'majority' is no better then anyone else, even if they think they are, sometimes they're worse.
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Old 12-06-2012, 05:43 PM
 
Location: earth?
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I'm a 35 year old gay guy. I have only been with one guy and that was five years ago. I didn't even come out until age 28 and before this i dated nobody.

I feel uncomfortable with sexuality in general. The gays in my small town are all about hooking up right away and having sex.

Part of me finds sexuality in general to be demeaning and sick. what's weird though is that i like the fact that other guys here think i'm hot but i feel uncomfortable with the idea of actually having sex. I feel better just staying home and looking at porn online and not actually doing it.

but i feel so lonely and i want a romantic/friendship relationship. If sex was a part of that then i would do it. but I just feel so demeaned by the whole process.

I look at porn online but I think it feels demeaning and disgusting that others look at me this way in the raw sense and i have a hard time feeling comfortable with the idea of sex when it actually comes to doing it in real life.

Is there something wrong with me?
Were you raised Catholic by chance?
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Old 12-07-2012, 07:23 AM
 
Location: Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam
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I have to say in all honesty that most of the sex gay men engage in with each other is gross. It also spreads diseases, leads to rectal cancers, and other lesser but still bothersome problems.

Of course, it also must be said that most of the sex heterosexual couples engage in is pretty gross too, and also leads to all sorts of problems.

Is it possible to have a gay relationship without sex? Of course it is -- its called "sisters," and its extremely common. The thing is, it doesn't fit into the romantic pattern we are taught we just simply must have.

There are many kinds of sexual activity couples, regardless of gender, can engage in that don't involve penetration and are still satisfying and romantic. The porn venders would have us think such things are "boring," and maybe, to many, they are. I enjoy them and really enjoy doing things I don't find gross and I don't have to worry about having done later.
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Old 12-07-2012, 10:14 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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I have to say in all honesty that most of the sex gay men engage in with each other is gross. It also spreads diseases, leads to rectal cancers, and other lesser but still bothersome problems.

Of course, it also must be said that most of the sex heterosexual couples engage in is pretty gross too, and also leads to all sorts of problems.

Is it possible to have a gay relationship without sex? Of course it is -- its called "sisters," and its extremely common. The thing is, it doesn't fit into the romantic pattern we are taught we just simply must have.

There are many kinds of sexual activity couples, regardless of gender, can engage in that don't involve penetration and are still satisfying and romantic. The porn venders would have us think such things are "boring," and maybe, to many, they are. I enjoy them and really enjoy doing things I don't find gross and I don't have to worry about having done later.

well for the gay people that's into sex, pretty sure that's how they feel as well -- not like they did anything 'gross' later on either......
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