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Old 10-27-2012, 07:23 PM
 
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I'm a 29 year old male, and have just admitted to myself that I have a lot of issues with my family, relationships with females, and a bit of a substance abuse issue.

I figure therapy is a step in the right direction, however, I have no idea what I'm looking for in a therapist. Do I just go to my insurance website and pick the first name that pops up, call them, and make an appointment?

Also, what type of therapy do I need? My insurance provide only lists family/marriage counselor. Since I'm not married, I'm not sure if this is the best option for me...

Any advice is appreciated, thanks!
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Old 10-28-2012, 09:03 AM
 
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A family / marriage counselor would do just fine!

Might want to pick male /female as you prefer.

And might want to pick someone close to where you live.

Other than that, pick anyone, be sure they accept your insurance. Then if for some reason it does not work for you, find someone else.

And good for you to get counseling! Those who go to counseling when the need arises tend to be mentally healthy.
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Old 10-29-2012, 01:19 PM
 
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Many therapists will speak with you briefly by phone before you make the first appointment to make sure they will meet your needs as well as to give you a chance to see if it seems like you will "click". When you call to schedule an appointment ask about the possibility of a brief phone interview.

Another resource might be your primary care physician if you have one. Often they are aware of therapists in the area and might be a good source of a referral.

Finally, after your first appointment or two, if it doesn't feel like the right sort of person, move on. I know several people who have done the hard work of recognizing that they need help, made an appointment, couldn't relate to the therapist and then discounted therapy from that point on rather than recognizing that not all therapists are going to be a perfect match.
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Old 10-29-2012, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Las Flores, Orange County, CA
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A family / marriage counselor would do just fine!

Might want to pick male /female as you prefer.

And might want to pick someone close to where you live.

Other than that, pick anyone, be sure they accept your insurance. Then if for some reason it does not work for you, find someone else.

And good for you to get counseling! Those who go to counseling when the need arises tend to be mentally healthy.
There may be some sort of gatekeeper (associated with your insurance) which can route you to the right professional. I don't know, just sort of brainstorming. Sometimes there are prerequisites or preapprovals for like 20 visits or something like that.

Last edited by Charles; 10-29-2012 at 02:13 PM..
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Old 10-29-2012, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Maine
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I agree with pinetreelover.

Also, are there other categories of providers that your insurance covers? Meaning, did you looking under "counselor" vs "mental health" ,etc? See if there are additional categories.

An approach that can work well for substance abuse and many other issues is cognitive behavioral and also rational-emotive behavioral therapy.

If you also are interested in online help for substance abuse, check out smartrecovery.org. It is an alternative to 12-step programs, although many people use it along with aa or na or the like.

Kudos to you for seeking help!
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Old 10-29-2012, 06:39 PM
 
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Well, I got my first session booked. I went on Yelp and picked the one closest to me with the best reviews. She said she took my insurance, so hopefully I won't get charged an arm and a leg for this...
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Old 10-30-2012, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Fredericksburg, Va
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Just realize that your 1st therapist may not work....sometimes, it takes several tries to find the "right" therapist! Hopefully, you've got it right on the 1st try....but if not, don't give up!
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