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Originally Posted by willow wind
I agree with Anywhereelse on this one.
Meeting your family was going to take the relationship up a notch where he didn't want to do. Going to a wedding of a relative of yours- that would be announcing to the world that you were a couple in his mind. Doesn't seem he wanted to go in that direction with you. While you called him your boyfriend, he seemed to be far less invested in the relationship.
I suspect this has very little to do with fear of intimacy but more that he was just not that into you as the saying goes. Better luck with the next one.
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I totally agree with this post.
Sorry to say OP, that you're boyfriend "just wasn't that into you." I'm sorry he was so evasive with meeting your family. Seems like you were more of a showpiece than serious girlfriend. He tried you on to see if you fit, and liked you well enough, but then decided he didn't want to commit.
Red flags are when your significant other makes up obvious and lame excuses (work, etc.) to avoid meeting the family or friends. If that happens to you, you know it's your cue to exit that relationship asap, because he (or she I suppose) is not that serious but too much of a wimp to say so because hey, sex without commitment is a great benefit, right?
The same exact thing happened to me a few years ago with a man I was seriously involved with. I'd met his friends but when it came to introducing me to his family, he balked and made up the
lamest excuses ever. Sure, he went to my family's for Thanksgiving, but when he went home for Christmas to visit his family for two weeks, he didn't invite me. And this was after I brought him to my cousin's wedding to announce to the world, "hey, we're a couple officially now." My ex-bf did not want to get serious with me, despite telling me he did by asking me to marry him...without a ring of course (he had an excuse for that too). So even his proposal wasn't official.
Some men are weasels in nice-guy's clothing and will emotionally manipulate their way out of commitment if they can, and then try to blame it on the other person instead of just being honest in the first place, that they need to end the relationship for a,b,c reasons.