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I've read just about the entire thread and baffled as to why the OP is going on and on about this woman but hasn't even asked her out! For chrissakes man, what are you waiting for? Life is short, you and her are no spring chickens. Stop spinning this to a bunch of strangers on this site and ask the woman out for coffee!!! You can't pass a note in class any longer. It's grown up time. As grandpa used to say, "Shyt or get off the pot!"
Oh, I wouldn't take money just to ask her. I haven't had much fun over the past year, so that would just put a big on my face.
I finally finished reading all of the posts. BTW, I generally don't read a long thread. I read the first post, a couple in the middle and then comment, but this one really had me going for some reason.
Anyway, I am 52. If I had a SO who gave me a ring, it would be on my "ring finger" on my left hand. It would not be on my right hand, middle finger as you mentioned the placement of her ring.
Next, she could be taking Feb 13 and 14 off, because (as you said) her daughter is expecting a baby and those dates may very well be when a C-section is scheduled. Maybe the baby is coming C-section on the 13th and she is going to stay with Mom and Baby the next day.
Finally, this is what I did on New Year's Eve and maybe what she is doing over Valentine's: I was off work, I wasn't home and I made plans for it the night (just as she is doing). I went out, but with female co-workers, because I didn't want to be home and reminded that other couples all over were spending the night together. I was having a difficult time of it and simply had to avoid being in the apartment, because I had recently found out that my SO was seeing someone else. All I could do was think about how he would be kissing her at midnight.
My point being, she might have some time off to get her mind off something. Her daughter may be delivering a baby. Maybe it's the anniversary of the death of a family member and she is visiting their gravesite. You really don't know.
Are the two of you ever in the same lunchroom together? If she is sitting with some co-workers, you could simply walk past with a coffee and ask if you can join them (it wouldn't be just HER then) and you get into more of the conversation - with all of them - and possibly learn more about her.
i think the baby is due in early March. i don't even know if they had the shower yet which i think the ladies i know and she knows are going to. generally only women go to showers? i mean if any males at my place are invited and i'm not that would be a very bad sign indeed. that would show that they are important in a way i am not and i would probably just forget the entire thing. anyway i don't think guys generally go to showers tho am i right?
last time i had lunch with her was last march. she works down by the employee cans (bathrooms). our offices are not near each other.
i am very uncomfortable about this valentines thing and the last time we even acknowledged each others presence was in mid january. since then there haven't even been any greetings. the only thing helping me to feel better about this is my therapist and my low dose of paxil. thank god for those. i will probably overhear why she was out prior to 2/14 or after 2/14. hopefully i will be able to find out if she has a committment to somebody before 2/14 or after 2/14.
Forgive me, but, I think you're hung up on her being the age she is. You've never felt this way about a woman as old as she is and it bothers you. She may be hot, but, she's not a hot YOUNGER chick and therein lies the problem.
All right, rlrl, you know if she were younger, you wouldn't be in the state you're in. You would have already asked her out and enjoyed a nice dinner and maybe more by now.
what you say sounds interesting but its hard for me to follow the first paragraph
anyway, its the opposite. she is HOTTER than the younger women. it has gotten to the point where i am chatting up with the ladies in their late 20's to take my mind off this 58 year old because these ladies in their late 20's cool me down.
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