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She was drunk when she told me but don't know whether to believe her. She confessed that my father raped when she was little along with my older sister. They beat her spit on her saying how they wished they never had her. And then told her how he don't give a crap about her kids. And when she was 7 months pregnant at 15 my father beat her because my father's brother said she had a guy upstairs. When she was 16 she started selling herself to help my mother because she was so much in debt. Then she used to cut heavily and almost killed herself until her dead boyfriends mother found her bleeding in her tub. And some other crazy stuff. I am like woah. I don't know what to say or whether to believe her. I mean they used to beat us when we got out of line. And when angry told us he wished he never had us but I didn't think he would rape anyone. Along with this my mother has diabetes didn't tell anyone. I don't really know anymore.
I know it's wrong to put her busy online like this but that's just some heavy stuff..and she was drunk when she told me but I don't see how she would lie about anything even if they are at odds. what am I suppose to think to that? Just so horrible..
Well those things do happen. And it can be quite traumatic to say the least. People don't like to discuss it.
You may want to take her to a quiet park or quiet setting and mention what she told you (when she has not been drinking). Ask if she wants to talk about it or would rather not talk about it.
If she does not want to talk about it, never mention it again unless she brings it up first.
If she talks about it, just listen and be as supportive as possible.
Some people have "panic attacks" when talking about these things. You might want to read about that - search google. But basically the person is "overstimulated" - too much to handle/think about at once. If that happens the best thing to do is be quiet, have her lay down in a dark quiet room. No sound, no light, no movement. No "stimulation". It can take several hours for a person to come out of that.
So far as "doing anything about this" or telling anyone else. Leave that totally up to her.
I think you should believe her. I think you and she should seek professional help. If there is a domestic violence center in your area they likely offer counseling, and usually free.
Once you get some professional help ask them what you should do regarding any sort of legal help. But, first and foremost get help for the mixed up feelings this type situation has left inside both you and your sister.
You are a strong person for being there and listening to her. Get yourself someone to talk to in your local area right away. Perhaps then she will follow your lead and get help too.
Good luck on this.
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That is a lot to just make up and the fact that she told you when she was drunk makes me think she was telling you the truth. Does she have any marks on her arms from cutting? I don't think it should be swept under the rug. Your sister need some help with this. Maybe you can approach her at some point and tell her what she said and suggest she seeks some therapy to help her to deal with this. Cutting on herself and selling her body are 2 things you often see with women that were abused like that as children.
That is a lot to just make up and the fact that she told you when she was drunk makes me think she was telling you the truth. Does she have any marks on her arms from cutting? I don't think it should be swept under the rug. Your sister need some help with this. Maybe you can approach her at some point and tell her what she said and suggest she seeks some therapy to help her to deal with this. Cutting on herself and selling her body are 2 things you often see with women that were abused like that as children.
And the next progression is alcoholic drinking, drug addiction, and maybe suicide. This is serious stuff.
The fact that she was pregnant at 15 is also not a surprise for someone that was abused. It is much more likely that she is telling the truth, than making this up.
Have you ever been put under anesthesia? You have no filter. That's what alcohol can be like for someone that's drunk enough.
I think you should talk to her when she's sober. Find a quiet, private place and let her get it out of her system. You might also want to talk to her older sister as well and figure out just how much of this is the actual truth. Unfortunately, it's possible that it's ALL true.
That kind of thing happened in my family as well, unfortunately, 2 out of 3 of my sisters are also ummm "truth stretchers" as well, so without someone else to back up the story, it can be difficult to prove.
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