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Old 07-24-2013, 08:26 PM
 
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I constantly feel the need to be productive otherwise I feel as if I am wasting my life away.Seeing that I only get 3 to 4 hours of sleep a night I know it is not good but I am busy . If I try to go to bed early I just end up staring at the ceiling and I just get up and go do something like homework or read ahead.I am a major perfectionist. I do lot of activities and feel guilty. Yes guilty. About sleeping more then a few hours very other night

I am currently back in college and take 2-3 classes and work night crew 40 hours a week so I go to work at midnight and get of at 8am or so.

As of late I have been giving up dating , friends , family , tv, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and everything I once enjoyed to get to my goals.

The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself, but it helps.

When I'm feeling in a darker place, my perception is that everything sucks and even though I've done this, it seems I should have done more.


I am going for my bachelor degree nursing and feel like I have to work 3x harder then the person next to me so I get into the college I want I need a 3.8 gpa . There are a lot of people smarter then me but if I just will it and but my heart into this I will make it.

Any advice?
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Old 07-25-2013, 07:41 AM
 
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Yes, therapy. Not saying that in a smug way.

You need someone to set you straight and show you that what you describe is no way to live and is a road to burnout, not success. Take time to smell the flowers, krieger.
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Old 07-25-2013, 08:27 AM
 
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I constantly feel the need to be productive otherwise I feel as if I am wasting my life away.Seeing that I only get 3 to 4 hours of sleep a night I know it is not good but I am busy . If I try to go to bed early I just end up staring at the ceiling and I just get up and go do something like homework or read ahead.I am a major perfectionist. I do lot of activities and feel guilty. Yes guilty. About sleeping more then a few hours very other night

I am currently back in college and take 2-3 classes and work night crew 40 hours a week so I go to work at midnight and get of at 8am or so.

As of late I have been giving up dating , friends , family , tv, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and everything I once enjoyed to get to my goals.

The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself, but it helps.

When I'm feeling in a darker place, my perception is that everything sucks and even though I've done this, it seems I should have done more.


I am going for my bachelor degree nursing and feel like I have to work 3x harder then the person next to me so I get into the college I want I need a 3.8 gpa . There are a lot of people smarter then me but if I just will it and but my heart into this I will make it.

Any advice?
What's the problem? You are doing what you want? If you can physically and mentally manage on four hours sleep - you're lucky. A lot of us can't. (I'd catch a cold if I went two days with four hours sleep each night.)
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Old 07-25-2013, 09:56 AM
 
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Sounds like a good thing to me!

(Different people need different amounts of sleep.)
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Old 07-25-2013, 10:13 AM
 
Location: Northern NH
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I really don't think that amount of sleep is good for you in fact I would suggest looking up studies.
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Old 07-26-2013, 05:44 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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It does sound like you need counseling to help you organize your life. It just seems it has went out of control and you need to be able to set priorities, reasonable ones, so you don't run yourself ragged. You have overwhelmed yourself with stuff that really isn't that important and you need to find out why so you can correct this. You could start with talking with a counselor or someone at the college and see if they have any advice.
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Old 07-26-2013, 12:08 PM
 
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Yes, therapy. Not saying that in a smug way.

You need someone to set you straight and show you that what you describe is no way to live and is a road to burnout, not success. Take time to smell the flowers, krieger.

therapy could help i will have to look into that. I just do not have time to smell the flowers .BTW thanks
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Old 07-26-2013, 12:17 PM
 
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It does sound like you need counseling to help you organize your life. It just seems it has went out of control and you need to be able to set priorities, reasonable ones, so you don't run yourself ragged. You have overwhelmed yourself with stuff that really isn't that important and you need to find out why so you can correct this. You could start with talking with a counselor or someone at the college and see if they have any advice.

yea i will do i just need to get things done faster so i can get more sleep . I just get so sick of being a loser with nothing that i kinda just went all in. I have been reading some self help books on organize your life. thanks for the help
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Old 07-29-2013, 10:48 PM
 
Location: Corona the I.E.
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I would kill for 8 hours without sedatives so please don't feel guilty.
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Old 08-03-2013, 04:48 PM
 
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I constantly feel the need to be productive otherwise I feel as if I am wasting my life away.Seeing that I only get 3 to 4 hours of sleep a night I know it is not good but I am busy . If I try to go to bed early I just end up staring at the ceiling and I just get up and go do something like homework or read ahead.I am a major perfectionist. I do lot of activities and feel guilty. Yes guilty. About sleeping more then a few hours very other night

I am currently back in college and take 2-3 classes and work night crew 40 hours a week so I go to work at midnight and get of at 8am or so.

As of late I have been giving up dating , friends , family , tv, Xbox ,drinking, partying, sports, working out , meeting new people, sleep , sex, going out , and everything I once enjoyed to get to my goals.

The desire to feel like i am not a loser drives me. I don't know if that's the healthiest thing—to be motivated by a fear of hating yourself, but it helps.

When I'm feeling in a darker place, my perception is that everything sucks and even though I've done this, it seems I should have done more.


I am going for my bachelor degree nursing and feel like I have to work 3x harder then the person next to me so I get into the college I want I need a 3.8 gpa . There are a lot of people smarter then me but if I just will it and but my heart into this I will make it.

Any advice?
Therapy could help but will take months to work.
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