I live with husband damaged by war.

[claudhopper]

Originally Posted by Hopes

If they don't have the money for mental health treatment, they can't afford artificial insemination. And why bring a child into a household where someone can be attacked for coming up behind him? What type of life would that be for a child? Children are unpredictable. They come up behind people. I think it would be a big mistake to bring a child into a setting with that type of risk. An adult can survive getting strangled, like what happened to the OP, but a child could die very quickly by the same type of physical attack. If they have money for artificial insemination, they should use that for his mental health first and have children later.

I don't think any amount of money is going to fix what ails this man, a child just might be the best thing that ever happened to him, next to marrying this wonderful woman.
I was talking to her, because she will make this decision and I trust her judgment more than some psychiatric specialist or drug pushing doctor. She sounds very capable to me of doing what is in the best interest for all concerned.
I don't think it's right to tell her what to do, make suggestions and be kind.

[Hopes]

Originally Posted by claudhopper

I don't think any amount of money is going to fix what ails this man, a child just might be the best thing that ever happened to him, next to marrying this wonderful woman.
I was talking to her, because she will make this decision and I trust her judgment more than some psychiatric specialist or drug pushing doctor. She sounds very capable to me of doing what is in the best interest for all concerned.
I don't think it's right to tell her what to do, make suggestions and be kind.

Children should not be brought into the world to solve someone's problem. It's ridiculous to think a child would improve his condition when children are extremely stressful. I'm not telling her what to do any more than you are telling her what to do. If you trust her judgment so much, why are you questioning her motives for asking people on the internet? If you trust her judgment, you should understand that she is asking people on the internet because herself doesn't trust if having a child would be the right thing to do. I have been more kind to her than most people in this thread. My suggestion is she not have children until her husband is more mentally healthy. This is not an environment a child should be brought into.

[arleigh]

I can apppreciate your pain ,but they are right a chid will only complicate things ,and not be good fo the child either.
I believe your message needs to be heard ,and I recomend a "survivalist forum" that has a very large group as well .
Your expirence and insight need to be understood by people that have never steped out of this country.
Thank you very much for sharing, and my heart goes out to you, and pray you find answers you need for both you and your husband.

[Stranger1983]

Thank you all for your comments and concern, but i am not planning to grow old without children and grandchildren. I know my man and i know that more problems will have those wives with "normal" husbands than me, i am sure of it.

[Hopes]

I wish the best.

How will you afford artificial insemination?

What if it doesn't work?

Would you and your husband be willing to adopt?

[niravarav]

Oh Stranger, It's a long long story of your life. You know the marital relation is always stable under trust and sacrifice.
Yes I know your husband is still in a condition of shock, that's why he just looks forward blankly. Just relaxed him.