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I lost somebody to suicide a while ago and he seemed to suffer from borderline personality disorder.
Now looking back, I don't think in the long run, he would be capable of sustaining functioning romantic relationship or interpersonal relationships with anybody. He had intense anger he couldn't control, and he always had this thing called "racing thoughts" whatever that means.
Well, I've been reading an online article, it says, "the fact is people with BPD have a hard time with intimacy. Without intimacy, you just have two people going through the motions. The fact is, a person in the throes of Borderline Personality Disorder is incapable of adult emotional intimacy, because the very nature of the disorder decrees that they have not matured enough emotionally to the degree that is required to have emotionally healthy adult intimacy. They are caught in a cycle of emotional Push/Pull, or “love-hate.”"
My question is, do you think borderline personality disorder suffers can truly love somebody? Or they are just in love with the idea of being loved due to their severe abandonment, stress, anger issues.
Your post reminds me of something my mother asked me many years ago and I've never forgotten it and often wondered why she really asked. I don't remember exactly what we were discussing, but it must have been something about marriage and men. I was an adult and not happy with my marriage. We were quiet at the moment she spoke pensively, "Do you think you could ever really love someone?"
The way she said it, I've thought she didn't necessarily mean it about me, but, about herself. I replied yes, I could love another.
I think it's possible they can love though I can't say for sure. One thing they can't do though is to sustain a healthy relationship b/c they don't have the maturity to do so. I just got out of a relationship with one and at the end he said something so outrageous that I knew I'd never be able to get naked with him again. That was in June and I'm still getting emails from him trying to prove to me why I'm wrong and he said that he went to a whole panel of psychologists and they told him it was my problem lol. LOL b/c I can't imagine he would ever spend the money. Still, the problem with borderlines is that they often have crossover symptoms with NPD and ASPD and mine had NPD for sure and told quite a few lies I found out later.
I think it's possible they can love though I can't say for sure. One thing they can't do though is to sustain a healthy relationship b/c they don't have the maturity to do so. I just got out of a relationship with one and at the end he said something so outrageous that I knew I'd never be able to get naked with him again. That was in June and I'm still getting emails from him trying to prove to me why I'm wrong and he said that he went to a whole panel of psychologists and they told him it was my problem lol. LOL b/c I can't imagine he would ever spend the money. Still, the problem with borderlines is that they often have crossover symptoms with NPD and ASPD and mine had NPD for sure and told quite a few lies I found out later.
Is ASPD Asbergers? I've posted before about my son and my thinking he has it, but, there is so much about personality disorders that sounds like him. He is very cold, but not to his dogs or any other pet. He'd done some really odd behaviors to the women in his life. Most of them are certain they can fix him. HA Are they in for a surprise. (I'm speaking for his sister there!)
Is ASPD Asbergers? I've posted before about my son and my thinking he has it, but, there is so much about personality disorders that sounds like him. He is very cold, but not to his dogs or any other pet. He'd done some really odd behaviors to the women in his life. Most of them are certain they can fix him. HA Are they in for a surprise. (I'm speaking for his sister there!)
Does your son have a lot of abandonment issues?
One key characteristics of bpd is anger and rage.
They do go through a lot of emotional ups and downs. They have troubles regulate their emotions. It is a very painful mental disorder.
My opinion is someone would have to have major BPD to not be able to love, so major to the point were they wouldn't be able to function in normal life. But in this day and age even normals have trouble with intimacy and love.
P.S racing thoughts is an indicator or symptom of bipolar disorder or Schizophrenia. Not bpd.
My opinion is someone would have to have major BPD to not be able to love, so major to the point were they wouldn't be able to function in normal life. But in this day and age even normals have trouble with intimacy and love.
P.S racing thoughts is an indicator or symptom of bipolar disorder or Schizophrenia. Not bpd.
Do you think racing thoughts is exclusive symptom of bipolar or schizophrenia though? One therapist has told me that racing thought can be found in BPD sufferers as well.
Is ASPD Asbergers? I've posted before about my son and my thinking he has it...
ASPD is Anti-Social Personality Disorder, not Asperger Syndrome, the latter of which falls under the classification of Autism. The coldness you speak of is part of Aspergers.
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