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I married a man, at 21, who didn't have a driver's license. And he claimed it was for the very same reason. Panic attack, anxiety attack. And I loved him with all my heart. Like only a young fool can. Four years of servitude I put in, driving him around everywhere. Picking him up from work. Dropping him off when he wanted to hang out with his friends. It felt like I was his mother. He always promised he would work his way up to learning how to drive, because it was important to me. But he was just blowing smoke. I got sick of his empty promises, after long enough.
When I left, I moved him in with his best friend, who turned into his not so best friend, after being faced with the reality that he was his new dedicated driver. It wasn't long before his friend told him he was moving for a job - and moving alone. Last I heard, my ex was scrambling to find the next girlfriend/chauffeur to latch onto, to make sure he was taken care of. The man was a sponge, and did not contribute to society in the slightest.
I'd like to go on record and say, that working for a living, gives me panic attacks. Therefor, I should be exempt from sucking it up like the rest of the world, and earning a living. *nod*
Last edited by Marylandkitten; 04-04-2014 at 08:57 PM..
I married a man, at 21, who didn't have a driver's license. And he claimed it was for the very same reason. Panic attack, anxiety attack. And I loved him with all my heart. Like only a young fool can. Four years of servitude I put in, driving him around everywhere. Picking him up from work. Dropping him off when he wanted to hang out with his friends. It felt like I was his mother. He always promised he would work his way up to learning how to drive, because it was important to me. But he was just blowing smoke. I got sick of his empty promises, after long enough.
When I left, I moved him in with his best friend, who turned into his not so best friend, after being faced with the reality that he was his new dedicated driver. It wasn't long before his friend told him he was moving for a job - and moving alone. Last I heard, my ex was scrambling to find the next girlfriend/chauffeur to latch onto, to make sure he was taken care of. The man was a sponge, and did not contribute to society in the slightest.
I'd like to go on record and say, that working for a living, gives me panic attacks. Therefor, I should be exempt from sucking it up like the rest of the world, and earning a living. *nod*
He could move somewhere with transit. And I don't think you can compare driving to making a living. If you mess up driving it can be fatal!
And if you choke while brushing your teeth, you could die, alone, on your bathroom floor. What's your point? lol
Women won't be with a man long term, that won't drive, because long-term, limitless variants come to mind for needing a vehicle. You can take a cab, a bus, walk, ride a bike, call an ambulance! Right! Finding a way to navigate around a bad situation, does not justify the situation.
Panic and anxiety are classified as a mental disorder and not a mental illness. Assuming that's all he has. He can easily overcome this with therapy. I worked with many people with this disorder. I watched people who could not leave their home, literally to even check the mail, go on to become world solo travelers.
Often times people have a chemical imbalance caused by an unhealthy lifestyle and then they have a panic attack. Once they have one, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and they fear the fear and it grows out of control from there.
If you really care about this guy, demand, don't beg him to get help. And he will get better.
And if you choke while brushing your teeth, you could die, alone, on your bathroom floor. What's your point? lol
Women won't be with a man long term, that won't drive, because long-term, limitless variants come to mind for needing a vehicle. You can take a cab, a bus, walk, ride a bike, call an ambulance! Right! Finding a way to navigate around a bad situation, does not justify the situation.
I'm less likely to choke on a toothbrush.
I'm so glad they're making self driving cars. Equality for everyone including people who have problems that negatively affect their life! What if I'm never able to drive myself? I'm scared that therapy might fail to fix me.
Panic and anxiety are classified as a mental disorder and not a mental illness. Assuming that's all he has. He can easily overcome this with therapy. I worked with many people with this disorder. I watched people who could not leave their home, literally to even check the mail, go on to become world solo travelers.
Often times people have a chemical imbalance caused by an unhealthy lifestyle and then they have a panic attack. Once they have one, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and they fear the fear and it grows out of control from there.
If you really care about this guy, demand, don't beg him to get help. And he will get better.
I feel like my problems are permanent, which would mean there's only one way to not have to be miserable. Actually technology is evolving, life will get easier for everyone. No more lives being ruined due to one problem, we got technology which can help everyone!
Last edited by MynameisnotPeter; 04-04-2014 at 10:17 PM..
Does anyone understand me? Say I get an urge to do something dangerous like suddenly fully accelerating, my OCD makes me do things like that (even if they were an accident) a certain number of times. Usually 3,5, sometimes 4. I can't just ignore the thoughts, the best I can do is prolong acting them out, but the urge grows stronger and stronger (feels like anxiety building up as if you were about to panic like crazy) and I have to do it and it is so relieving. But it's dangerous cause I could crash, or just make other people honk at me. If I don't crash and die I'll probably get out and run screaming in panic mode as if someone was trying to kill me. What is absolutely neccessary to have a life gives me severe anxiety, OCD attacks, fills me with terror, and this is ruining my life and suicide does come to mind cause it seems to be the only option for me. I'm more scared of driving then taking a knife and cutting my arm up. Maybe I should of killed myself before. My brain is [Mod cut] and I think it always will be, I'll never get to function normally. I want to die.
Calm down......people can overcome the things you are describing with the right type of treatment.
Have you ever tried to get professional help for these problems you are having?
And I wasn't kidding about the golf carts and stuff........starting out with something small like that might help you build up your confidence and help abate some of your fears.
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