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Old 09-18-2014, 06:51 AM
 
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I am sick to death of the phrase living with depression. I'm talking about the other half that has to endure a depressed person all of my life. How do people handle it ? Do they walk around on eggshells, treat them like babies, are you hot, cold, hungry, sick,etc.etc. It is so horrible and yes I know before you say it it is horrible for them too. Meds are seeming not to work anymore. Prozac, Lexapro, Cymbalta, Buspar. He can watch something on tv and start to cry......Therapy you make me laugh.. Er, sir, why are you here today. can you tell me about your family, your work, on and on and on and that's about on the 4th visit. They never get straight to the point because they want to drag it out for the money.....bottom line. Please tell me how to live with such a person that of which I dearly love otherwise I would have left a long time ago. Married 45 years to this. When we were young he was able to hide it with pills and alcohol. I was just a stupid, naive little girl. Help please..
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Old 09-18-2014, 08:09 PM
 
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Therapist cannot fix all the problems. What I told my therapist is that I want to get to the root of my depression starting about opening up about my childhood. You have to take steps. Meds works somewhat. Plus what helps me is journaling keeping tracks of events that are good and bad. You can't just rely on meds and therapist you have to put the effort to.
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Old 09-18-2014, 10:17 PM
 
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I am sick to death of the phrase living with depression. I'm talking about the other half that has to endure a depressed person all of my life. How do people handle it ? Do they walk around on eggshells, treat them like babies, are you hot, cold, hungry, sick,etc.etc. It is so horrible and yes I know before you say it it is horrible for them too. Meds are seeming not to work anymore. Prozac, Lexapro, Cymbalta, Buspar. He can watch something on tv and start to cry......Therapy you make me laugh.. Er, sir, why are you here today. can you tell me about your family, your work, on and on and on and that's about on the 4th visit. They never get straight to the point because they want to drag it out for the money.....bottom line. Please tell me how to live with such a person that of which I dearly love otherwise I would have left a long time ago. Married 45 years to this. When we were young he was able to hide it with pills and alcohol. I was just a stupid, naive little girl. Help please..
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I think you just live YOUR life to the best of your ability and stay as loving and supportive as possible.

You need some outlets of your own tarajane, a book club, a women's Bible study group, a bowling team - something to get you out of the house and doing your own thing with other people a day or two a week.

When you stop expecting things to be different with him you will finally be at peace with who he is.

Just love him but don't be pulled down into the hole with him.
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Old 09-20-2014, 02:39 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I think you just live YOUR life to the best of your ability and stay as loving and supportive as possible.

You need some outlets of your own tarajane, a book club, a women's Bible study group, a bowling team - something to get you out of the house and doing your own thing with other people a day or two a week.

When you stop expecting things to be different with him you will finally be at peace with who he is.

Just love him but don't be pulled down into the hole with him.
Yes, tarajane, you need to get out of the house. I volunteered my time to teach little kids how to read, joined a book club, joined a hiking and camping club.

I don't know how to live with me. I've been depressed since I was a kid. I've always been happier when I have something to do
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Old 09-21-2014, 12:31 AM
 
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
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You could try doing a search, looking from a different angle to find the cause followed by a solution. Easier said than done but there are general measures one can take to help. Does he have anxiety issues too? Suffering from depression myself and having lost my son, I have been looking into the different causes and forms of depression and anxiety and what to do about it. It's very complex to say the least.
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