Feel like life is over at 35 (sleep, hyper, system, suicide)
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My 30's have absolutely sucked. This past year being 35 is reaffirming the fact that there's nothing left to look forward to but health problems, getting old more layoffs and another bad job.
Although I am physically healthy and have no debt, I am bored to tears. I've tried volunteering and wasn't even thanked at the end of the event. Last shrink I went to - I ended up giving HER dating advice and she made fun of her next client as I was leaving! Don't have faith in anymore "therapists".
I am single, fit and attractive - yet dating is a nightmare. Such a nightmare, I had to purchase my first taser gun.
Making new friends is also extremely difficult in my 30's (as all my other friends have moved on to pop out babies. Before you say I'm jealous, I have no desire to breed nor do I want to keep mommies as friends.) My favorite story is befriending a 33 year old co-worker and us going out for drinks. She ended up getting so drunk she fell off a stool and puked all over my arm before the night was over.
I had my first car accident (not my fault) in my 30's that totaled my car. My periods are getting worse in my 30's. It goes on and on and on...
Yeah, I'm pretty much over it all. Besides suicide, how do you stay positive living in this world and getting old and invisible?
Become a cougar? Make incredible memories for a few 18 year old lacrosse players? That would probably be fun... To know that by spending an intimate hour with a mannish boy you will be on his mind for the rest of his life as the woman that made a man of him must be worth some schitzenngiggle.
At 35, you know who you are and you're grown up enough to change things if you don't like the direction you're headed in, and with no kids and no attachments you can absorb risk and "travel light" to get the things that you want.
So I think the first thing you have to figure out is "what do I want?"...
our puny planet is spinning at the rate of about 1,000 mph at the equator as it travels around the sun at 67,000 mph and our solar system is moving through the deep dark vaccuum of space at 490,000 mph. All the while, another planet with people without a clue (just like us) are hurtling towards a collision with us from the opposite direction. WHOOOOOPEEE!!!
Become a cougar? Make incredible memories for a few 18 year old lacrosse players? That would probably be fun... To know that by spending an intimate hour with a mannish boy you will be on his mind for the rest of his life as the woman that made a man of him must be worth some schitzenngiggle.
At 35, you know who you are and you're grown up enough to change things if you don't like the direction you're headed in, and with no kids and no attachments you can absorb risk and "travel light" to get the things that you want.
So I think the first thing you have to figure out is "what do I want?"...
Awful suggestion. Why would I want to be with a little boy still going through puberty?
I've gotten everything I've ever wanted...life is boring and pointless.
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Madeline2121 I'm also 35, and I've never felt better. Life is what you make it.
Well then, good for you. Go take your fantastic life to another thread....this isn't for you. 35 SUCKS!
So diddling a lacrosse player may not be your thing... But being alive on this planet is a pretty amazing experience and it isn't going to last all that long. In fact, I think life is way too short to spend much time in fits of introspective misery... That's for twentysomethings, not grown-ups who are old enough to be held fully accountable. Look, you seem to know what you don't want and you seem to be a little hyper-focused on that.
I do not know how anyone could be happy in this place, I agree... without a spiritual life.
Buddhism, Krishna, Science of Mind...New Age stuff, I will not say "Jesus" sorry,...I don't know....
because with that ...life
could not be more exciting!!
Learning is endless...discovering the immense power we have to manifest and create
things all around us...I'm way older than you and feel like a kid in Wonderland.
Pick up a book by Abraham-Hicks...it might excite and revitalize you...or maybe not.
I think we were meant to have an emptiness inside...that only some sort of spiritual
learning can fulfill.
That's my 2 cents.
Good luck, sis.
And I like your honesty...
most people find fufillment with family. i am 33 single and no kids and it remains.to be seen if I will have a family... as im quite introverted with little interest in random small talk. im happy enough though thanks to a course in miracles and the ability to use the conscious mind and visualization to reprogram.the subconscious....
i prefer to live cheap and work as little overtime as possible to have time to relax and reflect. i dont need to be doing new things all the time but i would if the circumstances arose.... but not worrying about.it too.much.
i plan to contine to improve my impulse control and increase my discipline to counter the "programming" of the subconscious and animal instincts/genetic programming toward the goal of self improvement...
i dont get the same thrill from activities in the world... fast cars... expensive trips..Drinking and clubbing... gossip... as the typical person. i enjoy peaceful drives through the country, hiking, biking, etc. id love to be rich with a home and sailboat in the florida keys but.thats beyond my financial means. im not losng sleep.over it. no i dont care about my grammatical errors anymore only having my phone for internet...
30s are fine... more and more approach a stability and maturity vs the constant thrillseeking of youth.... however its in this age you begin to realize how short life is... i tell people time passes or we age about twice as fast as would be ideal....
I hear ya Madeline, I'm in my 30 s and this has not been my best decade. But I keep thinking that my 40 s will be! So I'm allowing myself to not expect anything great for a few years.
I keep reinventing my looks which keeps my confidence up and "not invisible." It also keeps my artistic ideas forefront.
I play "games w myself" and fun yet odd challenges. Right now I am going tanning and trying to see "how dark I can get." Very unusual for me as I'm ghost pale and have never been to a tanning salon. I'm also going for a personal record by seeing how long my paper towels can last me.
Making friends does suck, especially when you don't have kids and work from home. I won't lie, I'm still struggling w this one.
Planning for the future also helps. What do you want to do in life? What are your passions?
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