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Old 12-09-2014, 06:50 PM
Location: Los Angeles area
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To the OP: This is certainly an excellent thread topic, even if the matter has been discussed quite a bit, especially in the Non-Romantic Relationships and Psychology Forums. But I am curious why you chose to put it in the Mental Health Forum. People who are estranged from their families do not ipso facto have mental health problems! In fact the opposite is often the case, namely that the "estranged" ones are the healthiest and the families they are estranged from are the sick ones, hence the estrangement.

Of course people estranged from family may have a loneliness problem around holiday times (depending on circumstances), and I do understand this is primarily what you are getting at. But occasional loneliness is not a mental health problem per se.

Although I have almost no family closer than about 1,000 miles, I am fortunate that some very good friends have a tradition of an elaborate Christmas dinner party attended by a most interesting group of people. It is something I look forward to each year, especially as a divorced man of 70 who lives alone.

But Thanksgiving and New Year's are a different story for me in that I have no regular invitations for those holidays. So I have often invited some other single person to join me at a restaurant for Thanksgiving, and I do not feel too bad being alone on New Year's.
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Old 12-09-2014, 07:03 PM
Location: Free From The Oppressive State
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Hello everyone. This summer I moved across the country to get some (literal and figurative) distance from my toxic family. While it's been an overwhelmingly positive change thus far, I am rather conflicted now that the holidays are here. Not that we ever did the happy family holidays thing, but it is uncomfortable to be alone when so many people will be getting together with large groups of family and friends.

For people in a similar situation, what do you do instead (I do not know anyone here well enough to attend their family's Thanksgiving, so that is not an option)? How do you deal with people's questions of what your plans are without having to reveal you are estranged from your family?
What is it like?

Very, very peaceful.

I do whatever I want.
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Old 12-11-2014, 08:50 AM
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We invite my cousin over for Holiday Dinners (Christmas, Easter, Etc.) sometimes he comes, other times he chooses to work. (He's a police officer) His Father disowned him, but he still has his mother....although they live hours away. It's always great to have him over.
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