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Old 12-01-2014, 03:46 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I lived in a travel trailer for a year and it was not bad and then I moved to a house which I should have never bought. People was telling me I should buy a 5th wheel camper and travel to other states to see if can find a better place to live before buying a house but I wish I did now. I have family in other states that have welcomed me too come and stay. When spring comes I will put my house on the market to sell.
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Old 12-01-2014, 04:45 AM
 
Location: Places you dream of
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I love the Holidays just hate what it does to people- staying far
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Old 12-03-2014, 07:50 AM
 
Location: Birmingham, Alabama
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Dispise the holidays. Hate always being out of money and everyone asking for more of it. Hard enough for me to keep a balanced bank account when it ISN'T the holidays. It's just gross and uniquely American.
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Old 12-03-2014, 09:16 AM
 
Location: The 719
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I guess you don't believe in abundance.
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Old 12-03-2014, 10:00 AM
 
Location: Birmingham, Alabama
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What's to "believe"? abundance isn't a theory or belief system. It's simply a statement of one's current condition. Certainly not a reason to have a national or global holiday and brow-beat people into spending more than they should.
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Old 12-03-2014, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Xtreme SW Tennessee
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I have got to the point of hating Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas because many of close family members have died. So now I spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. This is why I need to start another life some where else like another state or move around in a Travel Trailer to find another place like Florida where people are my own age. What do you think about this?
I understand the feeling of needing to find new surroundings or change of scenery. But please do not forget, before pulling up roots, that even in a crowd of like-minded, we might still feel alone.
I think that I can relate some to your post. My children have flown the nest and have children of their own who will soon be doing same. As a parent, I have for years missed the child oriented aspect of the holidays. While I DO understand the true meanings of Thanksgiving & Christmas, a lot of the whoopla, for me, was about "little ones." In our family, at about the time that the little ones began being big ones, the immediate AND extended family anchors began passing. One year we buried 3 loved ones between Thanksgiving & New Year. This year, since January 11, we have lost 4. Holidays are not the same without the oldsters who initiated the traditions we hold to OR the kids and their merriment. I see where Tennessee is in your info.....we are in Tennessee, but it is big place. Please know that you are welcome here. We are not the Ritz, but do try to live by the Lord's command to love God, love one another. You have only to send a message. Bless you in whatever you end up doing or wherever you might go.
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Old 12-03-2014, 10:43 AM
 
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I stopped celebrating pretty much all holidays, especially religious holidays, all American holidays, I dont even celebrate my ethnic holidays anymore, Im just not the festive type

it's just another day, I wait until the holidays pass to ignore it and it's almost like it never happened

I still cook a turkey on Thanksgiving, but it's just for me and a brother

I think it's kind of funny watching people spend all their money because of the holidays, it's become more of a business than what the holiday was originally intended to be, the media portrays it like you have to buy something, it's that time of year!
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Old 12-03-2014, 09:36 PM
 
Location: Inception
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The holidays are centered around family, love, joy, sharing, bonding, and happiness. I think the celebration of these things are great. What makes the experience a drag year over year is the reminder that I do not have many of that (not in the traditional sense). I'm okay with being alone but sometimes the winter holiday season can induce the feeling of loneliness.

In the future, if I don't have a family of my own to celebrate with, I hope to be able to afford to travel during the holidays.
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Old 12-03-2014, 10:20 PM
 
Location: The 719
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What's to "believe"? abundance isn't a theory or belief system. It's simply a statement of one's current condition. Certainly not a reason to have a national or global holiday and brow-beat people into spending more than they should.
I think you're talking about commercialism.

It's my understanding that abundance is a given and not a condition. Either it exists or it does not.

What is money and where does it come from? Do we reap what we sow or not? Can we save our money and be miserly and be absolutely secure? Is this freedom?

Who is the provider of your life? Is it you?

It just seems to me that I'll be ok. It's up to me to manage well and provide where I can and be a good stewart of the money that comes my way. Pay my debts, be generous when I can and enjoy life.

I don't go around living in fear nor worrying about my next meal. I never have. I believe that someone who can't rub two pennies together is a fool. Or as my dad would say, a fool and his money are soon parted.

But I'm no hoarder either. Why? Because it doesn't work anyway.

We were meant to be generous, productive and abundant. A healthy lake does not stagnate. Water flows in and it flows out.

Who is your source? Have y'all ever seen a hearst pulling a trailer or a U haul?
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Old 12-08-2014, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I understand the feeling of needing to find new surroundings or change of scenery. But please do not forget, before pulling up roots, that even in a crowd of like-minded, we might still feel alone.
I think that I can relate some to your post. My children have flown the nest and have children of their own who will soon be doing same. As a parent, I have for years missed the child oriented aspect of the holidays. While I DO understand the true meanings of Thanksgiving & Christmas, a lot of the whoopla, for me, was about "little ones." In our family, at about the time that the little ones began being big ones, the immediate AND extended family anchors began passing. One year we buried 3 loved ones between Thanksgiving & New Year. This year, since January 11, we have lost 4. Holidays are not the same without the oldsters who initiated the traditions we hold to OR the kids and their merriment. I see where Tennessee is in your info.....we are in Tennessee, but it is big place. Please know that you are welcome here. We are not the Ritz, but do try to live by the Lord's command to love God, love one another. You have only to send a message. Bless you in whatever you end up doing or wherever you might go.
Thank you for the positive words and the welcome. John
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