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Old 12-14-2014, 05:07 PM
 
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go get help for the abuse
I am sickened by all the denial
stupid responses of some people on here
gosh I am a survivor because I did the work
before that I was a victim
and being a victim I damned near died from alcoholism drug addiction and many dysfunctional relationships
many who were violent
the ROOT??
Childhood insect
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Old 12-18-2014, 09:15 PM
 
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OP, as a mental health therapist, i can tell you that everyone reacts different to all situations. Do not think that you have a "problem" because this is not currently causing you pain. Do be aware that you *may or may not* develop different emotions towards the incident later.
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Old 12-19-2014, 06:32 AM
 
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OP, as a mental health therapist, i can tell you that everyone reacts different to all situations. Do not think that you have a "problem" because this is not currently causing you pain. Do be aware that you *may or may not* develop different emotions towards the incident later.


this is crap!
no therapist with a flip would give a clinical opinion on a message board!!
If you practice you should be reported!!!!!!
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Old 12-20-2014, 12:38 AM
 
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this is crap!
no therapist with a flip would give a clinical opinion on a message board!!
If you practice you should be reported!!!!!!
It is not a "clinical opinion" it is general guidance to a common question of "normalcy" which anyone in the profession would give.

georgia dem, I am sorry about what happened to you. Everyone reacts and copes in different ways to sexual abuse. Just because you feel one thing, does not mean everyone in the same situation will always have the same feelings.
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:20 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Between the ages of 5 and 7 I was molested by a female babysitter. She was around an older teeanger between the ages of 15-17. I don't think it's appropriate for this forum for a play by play description of what happened, but the reason I am posting is because I don't really think about it too often, but when I do I find that while I am quite uncomfortable thinking about it, I am mostly numb and don't feel any emotion.

I thought people were supposed to be traumatized by things like this Is it just because my perpetrator was female and I am a male? am I just abnormal? Was it because I didn't quite understand what she was doing at the time?

Anyone have any experience in this area that can shed some light on this?
There's nothing wrong with you. If something bothers you, it's a problem. If something doesn't bother you, it's not a problem.

Word of warning, the things which aren't a problem will come back and bite you in the backside somewhere down the road.
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Old 12-20-2014, 02:20 PM
 
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Please don't speak for me (or the OP if he so wishes).

My brother and I were molested as a kid and it did not bother either of us one bit. We thought it was funny actually. Later the guy was arrested for doing things "more serious than what he did to us". But no biggie so far as I am concerned.

People are different and things are not necessarily traumatic to everyone.
I wasn't speaking for you. I was responding to the o.p. and sharing with him a bit of my awareness of violation and trauma.
The o.p. stated feeling "quite uncomfortable" when thinking about the abuse and said, "I am mostly numb and don't feel any emotion".
Those two statements indicate that the o.p.'s experience of the abuse did indeed impact him negatively.
(btw,i was coyoteskye but am now butterflyskye)
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Old 12-24-2014, 04:33 PM
 
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It is not a "clinical opinion" it is general guidance to a common question of "normalcy" which anyone in the profession would give.

georgia dem, I am sorry about what happened to you. Everyone reacts and copes in different ways to sexual abuse. Just because you feel one thing, does not mean everyone in the same situation will always have the same feelings.



I said nothing about how some one feels
but you are trying to give clinical advice from a blurb on a message board!!!!
shame on you and if I knew you were I would REPORT you!!!!!
You are NO therapist a therapist WOULD not do that!!!!!
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Old 12-24-2014, 07:52 PM
 
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^ Again, no specific advice given, only therapeutic generalities.

I'm sorry that you think/feel the way that you do.

Merry Christmas!
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Old 12-29-2014, 08:57 PM
 
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this is crap!
no therapist with a flip would give a clinical opinion on a message board!!
If you practice you should be reported!!!!!!
I don't think so. My mother started to have issues with her father's abuse of her mother when she was in her forties or fifties. She hadn't repressed nor forgotten about it. She spoke of it from time to time. I was a bit surprised.
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Old 01-01-2015, 05:45 AM
 
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talking about abuse devoid of feelings does not mean there are no feelings buried
simply brushing them off claiming no damage is just more denial~~
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