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Old 01-11-2015, 08:47 AM
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I have a friend that I've had for a little over a year now and it was really hard to get to know him because he has some formof mental illness (I asked him if he was ever diagnosed scizophrenic and he quitely shook his head yes but would not talk much more about it) he is like a skittish puppy that has ever so slowly warmed to me. my problem is I feel he goes into major depressed mode during winter months and pretty much sleeps and lord knows how he feels. he does just enough to get by as far as taking care of himself. He is on disability and his bills are taken care of so other than seeminly being in complete misery for four months he is doing nothing wrong -- who am I to butt in? He tells me to leave him alone I'm just not sure he has had anybody care in the past any thought , ideas appreciated
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Old 01-11-2015, 01:42 PM
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Well if he is not a harm to himself or anyone else and he says to leave him alone, then I would leave him alone.

I would say he can call if he wants to talk/do something/go out [whatever your relationship is with him].
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Old 01-11-2015, 03:19 PM
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I think it is a good idea to check on him by a short visit, but not ask him about his mental condition. It seems that when approached by asking if he has a specific diagnosis, he withdrew and said to leave him alone. Drop by to see if he needs anything like food or help around the house. Tell him to give you a call if he needs anything. In my opinion, he still needs to know that a friend cares and is not put off by his behavior.
Just my two cents.
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Old 01-11-2015, 03:34 PM
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why do you think it is okay to ask someone you do not knew very well have they been given a mental illness label
no wonder he withdrew
that was rude
if he asks you to leave him alone, why feel you need others to give feed back on this?
if you have no training in mental health you can cause harm
shoot you violated his trust right off the bat
leave him alone
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Old 01-11-2015, 09:52 PM
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I think it is kind that she asked if he has a mental illness. I shows interest and concern for her friend. Especially in the current climate where we still don't discuss these things enough in our society. Mental illness should not be a taboo subject.

OP, it is nice of you to think of this person and show him extra compassion. I like the idea as someone said above of checking in with him from time to time but mainly, just let him do what he wants (or whatever he needs to do to cope with winter) as long as he is safe.
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