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Old 01-27-2015, 03:39 PM
 
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You are right, Georgia, fantasies about killing your mother are not healthy. They are, however, one way of dealing with the grim reality that op is facing. There is no right or wrong regarding what op describes about his mother, because what matters is how he experiences the situation. Fantasies are different from planning. If op were trying to get his hands on an effective poison, on the other hand, it would be a concern.

As far as a healthy reaction to this bad situation goes, op might try forgiving his mother (inside his heart, not to her face), and thereby move away from the anger that hurts him. Understandably, it would take a lot on op's part to be able to forgive...but it could be healing for him.

I wish you well, op, and as others have suggested, maybe you can move away from your mother, so you won't have to feel trapped any longer...and you can regain control by moving away.



and NO ONE here knows the full story!
their is a huge risk of acting out on a fantasy
he can not see past his own narrow minded resentments
he re-feels them over and over never addressing his OWN behaviors
excuses
he wants her to support him AND do and say as HE wants
I am sorry but the one who has a control issues is him!
He is obsessed with HER behavior a real sign of mental illness
every time some one REINFORCES what he is SEEKING
JUSTIFACTION for his rage
and sympathy
he is a classic victim
I cant get out because of health
I cant leave because of money
really he does not want to leave
if I were a betting woman I would wage 50 bucks he does nothing
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Old 04-15-2015, 11:08 PM
 
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I dont get it.. I just always have dreams of only doing this to her.. I have like this deep angry and hatred for her. I don't know why, even when she in in the same room as me, I can't even stay in the same room because I get these feelings and rage inside me which I hold in. So I get up and walk away and maybe even take a long walk to steam off the anger, I don't know why I just find her annoying.
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Old 04-21-2015, 01:01 AM
 
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I dont get it.. I just always have dreams of only doing this to her.. I have like this deep angry and hatred for her. I don't know why, even when she in in the same room as me, I can't even stay in the same room because I get these feelings and rage inside me which I hold in. So I get up and walk away and maybe even take a long walk to steam off the anger, I don't know why I just find her annoying.
1. You need to forgive, both your mother and yourself. Forgiveness does NOT mean condoning the behavior or excusing it. But, for your oiwn sake, to be able to start getting past the anger (which may be totally justified) you need to forgive. That won't be easy and may take time but is imperative.

2. Talk to somone one trained to deal with mental health issues about your feelings and fantasies. They may be understandable but are not mentally healthy and seem to be obsessive from your posts. They need to be dealt with and this requires professional help not just people's opinions on the internet. If money's an issue there are resources.

3. You may have to move out even if moving means living with another relative or with several roommates as well as finding full time work to pay your way even if you are in school ( many have done this and so can you).

The worst thing you can do is act the victim or, God forbid, get so caught yo in your fantasies that you act them out in reality. Take positive steps to change things!
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Old 04-27-2015, 06:47 PM
 
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Thanks everyone
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