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Old 03-13-2015, 01:20 PM
 
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How would you describe what you have when it comes to friendships?

I am having a rough time lately (and by lately I mean pretty much my whole life) with friends. I know its mainly the ADHD that puts people off.

I am wondering what it is like for other adults?
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Old 03-14-2015, 10:26 PM
 
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Thing is, we can't see the forest for the trees. Now that things have changed some I can look back and recognise some of my behaviour patterns. I'm more Asperger's than ADHD but it was there just the same.
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Old 03-15-2015, 09:28 AM
 
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Try volunteering or hanging around places where there are people with medical/disability issues. Those people are more tolerant of others due to what they have been through themselves.

Then other people who volunteer for those things (who have no medical issues themselves) tend to be more tolerant and patient [more intelligent], so will also be more friendly.

For volunteer opportunities, ask at your local county developmental disabilities office, county mental health office, hospitals, etc. That might be a good start and they may be able to point you in the direction of other ways to meet good people. Also at the mental health office, ask about support groups for people with ADHD. (Just tell them you are having trouble making friends as you said above.)

Note one of my best friends of many years has ADHD. It is a challenge at times to tolerate his "arguing" and "stubbornness". However I have read about ADHD and understand that I can just let him get angry and jabber on about how he is right and I am wrong... let him do that for a couple of minutes, then he comes back down to earth. Other people unfortunately are not as patient, nor do they read about/understand these things.
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Old 09-28-2015, 02:06 AM
 
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How would you describe what you have when it comes to friendships?

I am having a rough time lately (and by lately I mean pretty much my whole life) with friends. I know its mainly the ADHD that puts people off.

I am wondering what it is like for other adults?
mandm,

Some good ideas have been suggested. Have you seen a therapist? It's important to have someone qualified and licensed to assess several factors and give you the most accurate diagnosis or diagnoses possible. Have you been diagnosed with ADHD previously, or how did you arrive at the conclusion ADHD "puts people off"? Most people who are treated for ADHD, if that is the correct diagnosis, do well on an appropriate medication and psychotherapy.


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