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Old 04-13-2015, 01:22 PM
 
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For a while I've been in a pretty dark place. It's to the point where I'm constantly skipping school, and the thought of going to catch up, confronting my friends (who I've been shutting off from) and dealing with the transition from high school to uni puts me in an even darker place. I'm stressed beyond belief and generally just feel ashamed that I let it get to where it is now. I'm almost constantly thinking of ending it, and I know how I would, but I don't have the guts to do it. it gets better for a little bit, but it always falls back. I want to talk to the school counselor, but the thought of it kind of terrifies me. I've already got some people mad at me from not talking to them, and I feel like I'm screwing my life up. I try, I get up and shower, and I still can't get myself out of the house. I don't want to lose friends over this and I feel like I am.
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Old 04-14-2015, 09:07 AM
 
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Do you even want to go to uni?
Maybe you're depressed because you're not doing what you really want but what others are expecting of you?
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:22 AM
 
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Please go talk to someone that will listen and that you trust. Also, people that may or may not be mad at you are probably upset because they are concerned more than they are offended or angry. The sort of concerns you mentioned are not unusual and a qualified person will be able to help you, but what we already know is that what you're doing now isn't helping you.
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Old 04-14-2015, 11:44 AM
 
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For a while I've been in a pretty dark place. It's to the point where I'm constantly skipping school, and the thought of going to catch up, confronting my friends (who I've been shutting off from) and dealing with the transition from high school to uni puts me in an even darker place. I'm stressed beyond belief and generally just feel ashamed that I let it get to where it is now. I'm almost constantly thinking of ending it, and I know how I would, but I don't have the guts to do it. it gets better for a little bit, but it always falls back. I want to talk to the school counselor, but the thought of it kind of terrifies me. I've already got some people mad at me from not talking to them, and I feel like I'm screwing my life up. I try, I get up and shower, and I still can't get myself out of the house. I don't want to lose friends over this and I feel like I am.
I feel so badly for what you are going through. Please hear me when I say reaching out to a professional is the best thing that you can do for both the short and long term situation you are in.

College is a difficult situation, and some folks start to feel overwhelmed. Remember, depression is like a medical condition....it will get worse if untreated. With the first step on the start of treatment being seeing a counselor...And, please don't down play your symptoms....be very honest about how hard just daily functioning is for you right now. Just like you've described in your post...

Your friends will support you, once they know that you are very ill right now. You can get better, with medication and the guidance and counseling of a good professional counselor. But...No one knows until you tell them.

If you are at home....please reach out to a parent, a sibling or a neighbor for help asap.

Are you away at college?? If so, do you have a counselor already?? If you do, I urge you to call right now....Speak to someone immediately.

Remember, it is a strength to take that first step....It is a bit scarey, but it is a first step to healing, and it is a great self help step. That is the hardest step I believe, reaching out for help the first time. Think of this as reaching for a resource....And, why wouldn't any of us reach out for a resource if it is there. You would reach out to help a friend, right.

Also...remember, do for you what you would do for a friend....I think you might be willing to do this for a friend....you seem to value your friends very much, that usually means that you are a good friend.

If you do not know who to call....Call the most sensible friend that you are close too....Tell them what you have told us....let them help you get to the right place to get help.


Please do this immediately. I will be praying for you.

Her is a link to a random college, just as an example....I think if you just go to your college home page, there may be links to resources to help you on campus. http://www.depressioncenter.org/docc/resources.asp
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Old 04-14-2015, 04:28 PM
 
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Everything the others said, plus, even if you do really want to go to uni, do you have to go next fall? Can you take a year off to work on yourself and look around for what you want to do with your life? Or maybe once you had a goal of your own but maybe now it's changed and that bothers you? Or your parents chose it for you?
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