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Old 05-16-2015, 02:11 PM
 
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I am not sure what forum to put this. But lately I've been wondering if certain "tics" I have about clothing are manifestations of my anxiety, or a possible symptom of OCD, or just normal, or what.

I absolutely love clothing. Love, love love it. I will go months without buying anything and then get in the zone so to speak and buy a bunch of things. Particularly online, I love online shopping. But I find myself getting more and more anxious about purchases. For example, if someone else tried it on and stretched it out, or left behind deodorant smears...that really bothers. me. alot. I want to buy things when they first are available so I don't get "returns" because I am worried someone will have already worn it.

I myself recently tried on a beautiful dress that was pretty high in price. I ordered it right away and could see the package was still "factory" sealed (I can tell with this particular shop if I am getting a "factory" seal or their warehouse rebagging something) which made me feel distinctly relieved. Then I tried it on, and I heard some threads pop (which I brought up on the fashion forum). Now I feel panicky that the dress is "soiled" in some way, because there are apparently broken threads that I can't even find! This is nuts right??

It's not like I'm grossed out at the idea of someone wearing an item, obviously, because my own situation trying on a previously unworn item is causing me distress. It's like I want everything to be in.. flawless condition. Which is strange because I have to wear things eventually right? And I find that once I do, after a few washes, if the item is looking wilted and less than perfect I start to dislike it. So now I don't really want to wear my favorite things, as I am worried I will no longer enjoy them. And I find myself buying duplicates of cheaper items, like tanks, to prepare for this inevitable let down.

Is this completely crazy? I am taking medication for anxiety but perhaps I need additional help, or something.. this recent thread popping thing is getting to me and it's driving me batty. Of course, I am also stressing about college and life stuff, so maybe I am projecting important anxiety elsewhere.
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Old 05-17-2015, 11:06 AM
 
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If the above things are causing you problems - like financial or maybe you don't go to a social event because you don't have anything you have "not worn", etc., THEN do get counseling. Many colleges have counseling services for little or no cost. Also your county health department may offer low cost counseling.

On the other hand... If the above things are not causing you any problems and you can afford it, then fine - no problem! The apparel industry will love you! (A potential husband may run for the hills though...)
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Old 05-17-2015, 02:21 PM
 
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Nothing you buy is 'clean' even if it comes in a sealed packet.

During a garment construction, many people have touched it all over. The people who actually made this garment probably went to the bathroom without washing, maybe rubbed their feet, scratched their necks, picked their nose, anything, then they continued handling your future garment. Even the fabric itself is likely to have touched or dragged on the floor of the factory.

Nothing is actually clean when you get it. It's all an illusion. Just because a body hasn't actually tried it on doesn't mean it won't have an equal amount of sweat and skin cells on it.

Let go of that factory sealed package mentality because it means nothing.
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Old 05-18-2015, 11:54 AM
 
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Originally Posted by Kanzakura View Post
Nothing you buy is 'clean' even if it comes in a sealed packet.

During a garment construction, many people have touched it all over. The people who actually made this garment probably went to the bathroom without washing, maybe rubbed their feet, scratched their necks, picked their nose, anything, then they continued handling your future garment. Even the fabric itself is likely to have touched or dragged on the floor of the factory.

Nothing is actually clean when you get it. It's all an illusion. Just because a body hasn't actually tried it on doesn't mean it won't have an equal amount of sweat and skin cells on it.

Let go of that factory sealed package mentality because it means nothing.
Funny, I know this is true because I received an item that was internationally shipped (IE, I wasn't going to pay the exorbitant return shipping no matter what so I was stuck with whatever I got) and it arrived in a "factory sealed" bag. I was so excited and pleased with how beautiful the beading was etc...then it caught my eye. A very, very faint bleached out spot, the size of, say, a ladybug. Not big at all. You can't really see it unless you are looking very closely (which I always do Lol) but it is right near the neckline. All I could think was an employee must have dripped sweat on it. It reminded me how lucky I am not to have a laborious job (randomly enough). But that spot sort of bothered me because it was just there.

Oh well. I know you are right, I need to chill. AS for the other poster, also true. So far I am not in financial dire straights...I take care of my own but I do use up any "extra" pretty quick. I go many months without spending extra and most of my passions are inexpensive (outdoors, etc) so I can maintain a balance. Saving is something I do need to work on. Though, potential husbands be damned, I have a love affair with my clothing collection that will not be quelled
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Old 05-19-2015, 09:37 AM
 
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...So far I am not in financial dire straights...I take care of my own but I do use up any "extra" pretty quick. I go many months without spending extra and most of my passions are inexpensive (outdoors, etc) so I can maintain a balance. Saving is something I do need to work on. Though, potential husbands be damned, I have a love affair with my clothing collection that will not be quelled
Well if that makes you happy and not causing problems, it is YOUR life! So I see no problem with that. ENJOY!
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