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Old 08-12-2015, 06:01 PM
 
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i worked (and still work with him) a guy who was a total bully and bullied me mercilessly. one day in 2011 his e mails were accidentally forwarded to me by the receptionist. i forwarded his e mails back to him telling me they were sent to me in error and there they were for him. the "thanks" i got was that he first tells me to pleasepay attention to the confidentiality rule not please to send out e mails that were sent to me and then he e mails me "the best test of a true gentleman is somebody who remains calm in the face of somebody who does him absolutely no good". i guess that was his way of telling me "I respect you for not standing up to me".

a few months later my mom passed away. he actually gave me his sympathies and told me he heard that i had to do a lot of travelling long distance to take care of my mom. he never bullied me again after that. in fact i just heard his mother was dying and that he is now in the same situation i was in with a mother dying long distance

go figure

my point is when a bully sees youre not going to play into him (her) they might just forget playing games with you
Well, after my son died I thought she'd keep me out of her garbage. I went back to work three weeks after his death. I got rear-ended on the way to work and was upset and called to leave a message that I'd be late and I was barely crying on the machine. The receptionist (one of her cronies) thought it was funny and played that message for the other 7 employees with my boss standing there encouraging and laughing as they came into work. It took everything I had NOT to cry at work and if I felt the need, I'd go to the restroom and compose myself. I never cried at work and especially because they thought it was so funny so soon after his death.

When I did refuse to trash other people with her, it just put the target on my back.

I was coping with his death and people even told me they didn't know how I was doing it and they admired me. 18 months after his death I caught her and the asst. manager mocking me while walking 4 feet behind me. That was the straw that broke the camel's back. My whole body shook. I went to the restroom to calm myself down because I had had it and was going to give her my notice.
I did just that and walked out.

I called the head of the Union to tell him I'd return my keys to him and he told me that she said I couldn't handle my son's death and that's why I quit.

When her Dad dies as all parents do, all the power she holds over people will be gone and somebody might just pop her in her lying face or worse. Three people were on anti-depressants because of her.

Now this is an Administrator of an Employee Benefit Office. She's been calling a man that has prostate problems and sometimes has problems getting his prescription filled and she calls him Mr. Viagra since the first day I started working there and never stopped. Ever heard of HIPAA?

I'm in the process of trying to let it go. I do believe in Karma.

 
Old 08-12-2015, 06:09 PM
 
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No real point, I think.

First of all, she won't read a six page letter.

Second, it will make you look like a weak, petty person holding a grudge.

Third, even if you wrote a shorter letter, she'd just shrug it off.

If you really want to do something useful, you could reach out to any friends you might have there, talk to them, and if they want to file a complaint, offer your support.
You've all helped me make my decision not to send it.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

The decent people in the office know I'd be there in a heartbeat for them, as I said, it wasn't just me that she targeted.
 
Old 08-12-2015, 07:13 PM
 
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Anyone, for any reason can sue you. Even if you might win in court, do you want to pay to prove yourself?

You say you want to make her aware of karma? What about your own krama?

You have a new job. You've moved on. Let your feelings move on too.

One thing you could do is burn your letter. Even write more about moving on, being the better person.

Then, focus on your present time and present success.

The best revenge is a life well lived. Best wishes.
 
Old 08-12-2015, 07:52 PM
 
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You've all helped me make my decision not to send it.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

The decent people in the office know I'd be there in a heartbeat for them, as I said, it wasn't just me that she targeted.
You've handled this well, even in in the face of how it affected you.

I commend you for continuing to seek help when the counselors didn't recognize your suffering. I have experienced that and it is hard to work thru the maze of mental health care!

I only wish I had waited to read your whole thread before I wrote my post to you. You already know what I wrote!

Take care as you have been!

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Old 08-12-2015, 08:05 PM
 
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I'm sorry to hear of your son's death. I know that was made worse with her treatment.

I see your strength. Isn't hard to realize you have strength for such reasons? I've faced family problems that I never wanted to make me strong. But they did in their own way.
 
Old 08-13-2015, 03:40 PM
 
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You've handled this well, even in in the face of how it affected you.

I commend you for continuing to seek help when the counselors didn't recognize your suffering. I have experienced that and it is hard to work thru the maze of mental health care!

I only wish I had waited to read your whole thread before I wrote my post to you. You already know what I wrote!

When I first read this post, it brought a tear to my eye because I honestly didn't know how to reply to the other one. Thank you for re-posting!

Take care as you have been!
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I'm sorry to hear of your son's death. I know that was made worse with her treatment.

I see your strength. Isn't hard to realize you have strength for such reasons? I've faced family problems that I never wanted to make me strong. But they did in their own way.
I am a strong person despite of what life has thrown at some of us, we grow as people and learn lessons and hopefully become more compassionate and better people. I've always treated people with respect and am a good and honest person. I know there's a lesson to be learned here, just haven't found it yet.

Thank you for your sympathy and compassion.

I'm going to ask the Mod to close the post now as I received the answers I sought and I'm thankful to everyone that helped me make my decision!
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