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Old 09-12-2015, 02:08 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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Hello everyone,

I live in 4 plex complex where several of the tenants don't work while they are in their 30's and 40's. I have a stressful job teaching and it seems as though every time I come home my neighbors are outside wanting to talk and asking me to drink. Whenever I go outside, even to do my laundry, my neighbor seems to come where I am and want to talk about nonsense. It's driving me insane. They can't understand my cues that I sometimes I just want to go in. I hate it that everytime I'm outside one of my neighbors are always there. I live where there is an individual owner of the four plex and think I may want to break the lease even though my lease doesn't end until May. One neighbor above me is a prostitute and has a different guy over every other night. They are having loud sex from 2-5am every night that wakes me up. The last thing I want to do is call the landlord on people because they are so bored with their lives they would probably somehow figure it was me. It just seems as though I can't have my peace. Should I confront the neighbors? Seems like I don't think that's the best idea since they all have criminal histories. Or should I just try to move and break the lease? This is just making me go insane.
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Old 09-12-2015, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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I agree that you shouldn't complain to the landlord. They will know it was you and it won't make anything more peaceful. Right now they like you and are too " friendly" , I imagine it would be worse to have them hate you.

Winter will be here soon and maybe they will be inside more and you can ride it out until May. I would try and stay until the lease is up if I could.
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Old 09-16-2015, 03:08 PM
 
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Move.
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Old 09-16-2015, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Dallas, TX and Las Vegas, NV
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May will be here before you know it. Stick it out and just stopping giving cues when you don't want to visit simply say you betterheD to your place because you have some phone calls you still need to make today.
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Old 09-17-2015, 05:15 PM
 
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If the prostitute's clients drive to your area, put little notes on their car windows saying she has AIDS or something?
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Old 09-27-2015, 07:32 AM
 
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No need to be rude to them, they are living in the same complex as you so they can do whatever it feels to make them feel at home just like how you would want to feel like. Drinking coffee may help you relieve your odd stress issues otherwise it will just be ongoing until depression.
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Old 09-29-2015, 11:26 AM
 
Location: VA
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As far as the neighbors wanting to talk, gossip and drink, tell them when you come from work...you are tired and have to catch up on some sleep and you have a stressful job. The problem is they cant relate because a lot don't work, but it is what it is.

As far as your neighbor who is a prostitute, I don't know what to tell you about that one. But I know that sucks.

Try looking for another place to live and move when your lease is up...that is if you can last that long.
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Old 09-29-2015, 11:48 AM
 
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Move now before you get caught in the middle of something bad, like a deal gone bad, it might be something worse than prostitution (drugs). Report the activity to the police. Make recordings of the noise and take it to your landlord, tell them you notified the police of the criminal activity. If the landlord is decent they should let you break the lease. But get out.
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Old 09-29-2015, 11:54 AM
 
Location: Land of Free Johnson-Weld-2016
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OP move. Eventually people like this will break into your pad and steal all your stuff. Ok well maybe not them, but one of their guests. Did you move there without checking out the area first? Likely you'll have to pay 2 mos rent to get out of the lease...IF the landlord lets you out.
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Old 04-14-2018, 09:53 PM
 
Location: DFW
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Hello everyone,

I live in 4 plex complex where several of the tenants don't work while they are in their 30's and 40's. I have a stressful job teaching and it seems as though every time I come home my neighbors are outside wanting to talk and asking me to drink. Whenever I go outside, even to do my laundry, my neighbor seems to come where I am and want to talk about nonsense. It's driving me insane. They can't understand my cues that I sometimes I just want to go in. I hate it that everytime I'm outside one of my neighbors are always there. I live where there is an individual owner of the four plex and think I may want to break the lease even though my lease doesn't end until May. One neighbor above me is a prostitute and has a different guy over every other night. They are having loud sex from 2-5am every night that wakes me up. The last thing I want to do is call the landlord on people because they are so bored with their lives they would probably somehow figure it was me. It just seems as though I can't have my peace. Should I confront the neighbors? Seems like I don't think that's the best idea since they all have criminal histories. Or should I just try to move and break the lease? This is just making me go insane.
I'm a geek and my solution to nosy people particularly neighbors or coworkers is to only talk about geeky stuff like computer programming, Anime, etc. whenever they engage me in conversation and I don't feel like it. If they seem to be interested (not very likely) then great, I have a new buddy!
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