I Need an Alternative to Being Trans

[justcuriousxxx]

Aaaannnd you don't believe me. Naturally.

I'm not a lesbian. I identify as a homosexual male.

By the way, I'm 30, not 12. I was married for a time and I've spent a great deal of time reading and ruminating throughout my life.

By changing genders I thought I WAS "forging my own path."

The problem is no one can relate. And even people who are generally indifferent to GD don't actually *care* about it.

[justcuriousxxx]

Interesting how no one has said anything about how to be more stereotypically female (therefore socially acceptable) and less manly. I'm not overweight so I can't play the **** off as macromastia.

[Bakeneko]

Originally Posted by justcuriousxxx

I don't have access to mental health services. I thought I explained that. I need serious medications, and possibly a stay at an in patient facility. But I'm not good enough. I tried private practice and they rejected me the same way the VA did. I also explained that. Reading helps and you obviously only skimmed it. Thank you for confirming my suspicion that my problems are all fake.

Wow, I think that was a bit harsh. I was only trying to be supportive. I actually did read your post and was a little confused as to why this was a VA issue? Do you have other insurance you could use?

Could you travel to Minnesota - they seem to have a program there for Transgender vets.

Transgender Vet Finds Help, Without Fear, At VA Hospital « CBS Minnesota

Minneapolis VA Health Care System








Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) Program








Minneapolis VA Health Care System is committed to providing top quality care
to all Veterans including lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT)
Veterans. We recognize that diverse populations have distinctive needs, and we
train our staff in culturally and clinically competent care for LGBT Veterans.



Leaders in LGBT Healthcare Equality





The Human Rights Campaign Foundation awarded the staff of Minneapolis VA
Health Care System, the Healthcare Equality Index (HEI) 2013 and 2014 Equality
Leader Status!


LGBT Services Include:





General medical services and specialty care
clinics


To schedule an appointment with Primary Care, contact the Call Center locally
at


612-467-1100 or toll-free 1-866-414-5058 ext. 1100.


Affirmative Psychotherapy Services


Our Mental Health Service Line is committed to providing individual therapy
for Veterans identifying as LGBT. Veterans who are not sure about their sexual
orientation and/or gender identity may find therapy helpful. Some Veterans may
want to learn more about available gender transition services and supports. For
more information related to mental health services and to schedule an
appointment, contact Mental Health Intake at 612-467-1921.


Veteran Support Groups


The Minneapolis VA Health Care System Mental Health Service Line offers three
specialized patient groups for LGBT veterans. These groups are facilitated by
psychotherapists who are trained in LGBT issues. Contact Sandra Laski at



612-467-3890 for more information.

• LGB Patient Support Group
• Transgender and Gender Variant Group
• Young Adult Transgender Group (ages 18 to 35, monthly late afternoon
  group)

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[katjonjj]

Originally Posted by justcuriousxxx

Interesting how no one has said anything about how to be more stereotypically female (therefore socially acceptable) and less manly. I'm not overweight so I can't play the **** off as macromastia.

I didn't offer that advice since I don't think you should be less manly. You should be acceptable as you are. I also don't see why this is a mental health issue unless you think what you are is causing you anxiety and grief. In that case, I would suggest a counselor that deals with these kinds of issues all the time.

Like I said before, my niece pulls of being manly and yet everyone can tell she is female.

[MoonBeam33]

You come in on the offensive and ask total strangers to somehow magically find a solution to your mental health needs and then get angry when strangers who don't know where you live, and most are not familiar with the VA system, don't have an answer.

Here's your answer: Find your local trans support group and start attending meetings. Then call a psychologist, a LCSW, a therapist, make an appointment, and in your first appointment tell them you are seriously considering suicide and you need help. You will get the help you need with your emotional and mental health issues, which is frankly more important than trying to transition when you are in such a bad place. You need to have supports in place before you make the transition.