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Old 12-30-2015, 04:49 PM
 
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Discuss here if you have things you want to get off your chest about the subject title / if you are the victim of or guilty of this / and your thoughts

I know the obvious answer, "It's wrong! What else is there to discuss?" But what if you didn't know getting into such a relationship and are stuck? Secretly slink off and hope for the best?
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Old 12-30-2015, 05:18 PM
 
Location: San Antonio/Houston/Tricity
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There isn't such thing like getting stuck. A relationship held together by any kind of threads isn't a healthy relationship. Self-harm and suicide threats are among the most terrifying, and effective manipulation tactics of an abusive blackmailer. Giving in to it just reinforces the blackmailing behavior.
They need to split and seek professional help...
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Old 12-30-2015, 05:31 PM
 
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Its very common.


Its emotional abuse.


I had it happen once, but the relationship was so far gone I didn't give a toss if he did follow through.


Of course, he didn't.


He met someone else and proceeded to make her life a misery too.
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Old 12-30-2015, 07:37 PM
 
Location: MA
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It is common for Boarderline personality disorder to use this. Not healthy and a reason to leave.
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Old 12-30-2015, 11:56 PM
 
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I looked it up and that's what she has, thanks :\
No cure ~ no positive thoughts or mental programming ~ hopeless, as usual things are

Makes me wonder why even deal with people at all, so many come out of the womb wrong
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Old 12-31-2015, 05:53 PM
 
Location: OHIO
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I had an ex threaten me with these kinds of things and as someone who has an anxiety disorder myself I felt like i needed to be more understanding and it also just made me super anxious. I left though, because he was also super needy and i'm very much independent and I couldn't take the constant accusations and back and forth. He didn't do it, but he did take my advice and seek out help. Got some therapy and meds..messaged me a few months later and apologized and thanked me and said he is doing much better. Turns out he was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
I'm just glad he got help, but it wasn't the relationship for me.
and yes, many people are damaged in their own way, but not everybody is this extreme.
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Old 01-01-2016, 09:56 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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I had an ex who would threaten it often. It was very terrifying. I never want to experience that again.
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Old 01-01-2016, 10:40 PM
 
Location: home state of Myrtle Beach!
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My now late husband did this. He wouldn't seek mental health help but I have had conversations with other people who thought he was bipolar and multiple personality wouldn't surprise me either. He couldn't accept nor act on my concerns for his health, thus he is now deceased, succumbing to Kidney Cancer last summer. I believe everyone gets what they deserve in the end. My life is just now beginning, and I'm ready after suffering with this reality for over 30 years! I married "for better or worse" and took that vow seriously. If you are contemplating a relationship with someone who won't seek mental health wellness, you may be very unhappy.
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Old 01-02-2016, 09:00 AM
 
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I had an ex who would threaten it often. It was very terrifying. I never want to experience that again.
Same here. It got so bad at one point that his adult son said, "Maybe dad needs a book of instructions to get it done." That's how much it effects those who are around an emotional blackmailer.
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