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Are there any at-home-wives out there? I've always been an at-home mom of 3, but the kids are all above 13 years old now. We are in the process of moving, and my husband will have a job change, which sucks because he had always been around for me to talk to and such before.
I'm somewhat depressed, because the kids aren't around as much either- one is in college, and one more will be starting college next year. Plus, my hubby won't be here during the day either.
What do you other housewives do during the day? Anyone else get lonesome?
It's quite a change when your duties are less custodial. I still feel at sea sometimes.
Honestly, you can whatever you want to do. Do you want to go back to work? Are there hobbies you'd like to pursue? I know having too many choices can be overwhelming. You could try a little of everything until you find what you love.
Here are things I do: walk the dog, go to the gym--I've made some good friends there, visit my mom at her nursing facility, cook, volunteer in the local elementary school library. My husband and I started hiking recently--he works from home on Fridays and we take a few hours then. I also can run around and do all those errands that are crowded on the weekends.
I'm still trying to decide if I want to go back to work. My husband retires at the end of this year and I'd like to spend time with him.
Good luck to you. You sound sad, but I think you need to find your new normal.
I do not work outside the home. We do not have children (got married later in life), so no children or grandchildren to assist.
We have a garden, a largish house, and I split most of our firewood. All of that takes time, also I exercise (ride our exercise bike), and volunteer in the community. In the winter I do more inside tasks - make bread, make jelly - the things I don't have time for in the summer.
One thing I do that may help you is - before I go to bed at night, I plan the next day. Major tasks I want to accomplish. "Stuff" happens, so sometimes I have to change my plans during the day. But having goals in mind for each day keeps me motivated.
I don't really like social media, but my town does have some FB groups that I am a part of. They allow me to connect with other sahw; I have made some friends through our town FB groups.
I agree that volunteering is an excellent way to stay connected to others. I was a Master Gardener for years - excellent way to meet others and to share your skills. You dont have to be a terrific gardener, either - they will train you.
Depending on your new neighborhood, you might find yourself in a position to be a sort of neighbor "mom" for the kiddos whose parents arent around very much...
I'm not on FB. I've thought about it, but then I'm like, who would befriend me? I've been out of the loop for so long. And since I don't exactly have a career, I'm kind of embarrassed. Look what others have done with their lives.
So, I'm not sure if I should. Might make me feel worse, you know?
I'm not on FB. I've thought about it, but then I'm like, who would befriend me? I've been out of the loop for so long. And since I don't exactly have a career, I'm kind of embarrassed. Look what others have done with their lives.
So, I'm not sure if I should. Might make me feel worse, you know?
You dont need FB friends to join the FB groups for your town! As long as you have a fb account, you can join all kinds of groups. It's a great way to meet people...
You have raised kids - mostly raised them, anyway. Nothing to be embarrassed about!
Volunteer! The schools need volunteers, libraries need them!...You probably have a lot of skills to share...and have you thought about taking a class or two? Wouldnt have to be at a college - might be a hobby type class like quilting or something related to computers...do a little brainstorming.
Yeah, I think a class would be fun. I may wait on the FB thing til we move. Maybe a class on FB?? lol I have no idea where to start with that stuff. I used to work at a library, before I got married. I've thought about doing that again.
Thanks.
My mother was a stay-at-home wife and mother. She gardened, did housework, enjoyed cooking (very good cook!). She was also a very creative seamstress -- did beautiful embroidery, quilting, plus made her own clothes (and our clothes when we were growing up). When we were older, not at home as much (or off at college) she played bridge, played piano. She was active in our church. I don't think she had time to get bored! She did enjoy reading, but I don't know how much time she had for reading.
I'm not on FB. I've thought about it, but then I'm like, who would befriend me? I've been out of the loop for so long. And since I don't exactly have a career, I'm kind of embarrassed. Look what others have done with their lives.
So, I'm not sure if I should. Might make me feel worse, you know?
You have accomplished one of the most challenging "careers" in life. You have managed a successful marriage, supported a partner, raised 3 fab kids. Not much more success in life.
You have strengths that you should utilize in fulfilling ways. Have you thought about volunteering for organizations that help underpriviliged kids? You are good at the kid thing right? Nothing is more appreciated than a Mom who knows what they are doing. You have done it X3.
Been there! Good luck!
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She did enjoy reading, but I don't know how much time she had for reading.
