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Bottom line is you need to find a constructive outlet for your anger so that you can learn to let it go. Some people go to therapy. Some do yoga or meditation. Some find a good church. Some do volunteer work....or a combination of any or all of the above.
Most of the people who bullied you probably came from messed up families, which is why some have been in jail already.
This is how the cycle of abuse works. Kids get abused by their parents (because their parents were abused as children). So they abuse other kids at school, etc.
You have to be the one to make the conscious decision that you want to end the cycle of abuse. That starts with learning to let go of the anger.
I'm not the OP, but I think only some of my bullies were abused, and some of them were people who merely found me really annoying and forgot that I was a human being despite that.
Some of my bullies had good grades and did well academically unlike me who was too lazy because I was too busy crying over them. (I posted in that thread as aja675.)
Every time I look at Mackenzie Zales plotting schemes to wreak revenge on Jenna Darabond, I see the revenge I want.
I could stop myself though. I mean, if you used to be a victim, and you are still bitter and violent over the past even no one is doing anything to you anymore, you could end up creating a situation like this: //www.city-data.com/forum/afric...th-africa.html
No, I don't necessarily think that it is bad to want revenge on those who have hurt you. I think that there would be strong repercussions if you actually acted on it though.
I know that you probably don't want to hear this, but you are young. At this point in time you have been subjected to much that is outside your control. I can certainly identify with being bullied, called ugly among other things, and coming from a family where my parents were less than supportive and really being downright abusive. I would be lying if I said that those experiences didn't hurt or that they didn't contribute to my insecurities, but the older I get, the farther I become removed from those experiences and the less they impact me.
You sound creative, due to the stories that you have written. You may be better than you think you are. For me it was drawing comics. Whether it was for my own amusement or not, it helped me to dissipate stress and rewrite my own history, so to speak. One of my favorite sayings is that there has to be a pony in all that sh*t. Use your hurt to fuel your own creativity, whether it may be a letter that you write to those who have hurt you, or a story that makes you laugh. You have the power within yourself to recreate history as you wish and move on. The more self reliant you are, the less your parents' mistreatment matters. And the more people that you meet, the less impact your tormentors have.
Believe me, I know what it feel like to feel robbed and to want to go back and right the wrongs. But life has a funny way of doing that for you, if you are patient enough. Three years ago I got engaged to a guy that used to give me the side-eye when I was my weird self and he dated all the popular girls years back in school. Know what? He turned out to be an absolute bum. I worked hard and bought my own house. I have a decent life. Keep in mind that people show the best aspects of theirselves on social media. I am totally convinced that a couple of girls I used to know fart rainbows and sh*t ice cream, but you never truly know what the truth is in other people's lives. How do I know that their spouses aren't abusive or something? I don't. I happen to agree that living well is the best revenge and that it is better to soar with the eagles than to fly with the crows. Take care of you and I am sure things will fall into place. I have seen too many things in my life to believe that that isn't true.
No, I don't necessarily think that it is bad to want revenge on those who have hurt you. I think that there would be strong repercussions if you actually acted on it though.
I know that you probably don't want to hear this, but you are young. At this point in time you have been subjected to much that is outside your control. I can certainly identify with being bullied, called ugly among other things, and coming from a family where my parents were less than supportive and really being downright abusive. I would be lying if I said that those experiences didn't hurt or that they didn't contribute to my insecurities, but the older I get, the farther I become removed from those experiences and the less they impact me.
You sound creative, due to the stories that you have written. You may be better than you think you are. For me it was drawing comics. Whether it was for my own amusement or not, it helped me to dissipate stress and rewrite my own history, so to speak. One of my favorite sayings is that there has to be a pony in all that sh*t. Use your hurt to fuel your own creativity, whether it may be a letter that you write to those who have hurt you, or a story that makes you laugh. You have the power within yourself to recreate history as you wish and move on. The more self reliant you are, the less your parents' mistreatment matters. And the more people that you meet, the less impact your tormentors have.
Believe me, I know what it feel like to feel robbed and to want to go back and right the wrongs. But life has a funny way of doing that for you, if you are patient enough. Three years ago I got engaged to a guy that used to give me the side-eye when I was my weird self and he dated all the popular girls years back in school. Know what? He turned out to be an absolute bum. I worked hard and bought my own house. I have a decent life. Keep in mind that people show the best aspects of theirselves on social media. I am totally convinced that a couple of girls I used to know fart rainbows and sh*t ice cream, but you never truly know what the truth is in other people's lives. How do I know that their spouses aren't abusive or something? I don't. I happen to agree that living well is the best revenge and that it is better to soar with the eagles than to fly with the crows. Take care of you and I am sure things will fall into place. I have seen too many things in my life to believe that that isn't true.
Sometimes, some people make you want to avenge them because you feel like you're in a "the winner takes it all, the loser standing small'' situation.
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