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Originally Posted by MrJones17
Everyone she talks to, including myself, have told her she is a good person and she was a child when it happened so she can't blame herself for it.
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Just an idea to consider;
She might not believe this hearing it from the people who know her. She may dismiss it, assuming they are already on her side, biased in her favor, or are just trying to comfort her. Also, she cares more about the opinion these people have of her so admitting this unintentional act to them makes her feel even worse. She's "stuck" and so are the people trying to help.
Sometimes family or friends are harder to talk to about something like this. Too much of the rest of their relationship gets in the way. If she relates the same account to an impartial person such as a counselor and that person also tells her the same thing, it might give it more weight. She might believe it more hearing it from a person who doesn't know anything else about her (the good or bad). She may end up realizing that if a stranger is able to see that she was not to blame, maybe it's true. Then of course a counselor can help her clarify what the real issue about the memory actually is, plus give her tools to change how she views the whole event and how to come to peace with it.