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Old 11-03-2020, 03:23 PM
 
Location: Islip,NY
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I notice this is all women, ahem ladies, I believe, who are having this problem. What about when they retire? I've heard for decades that men when they retire, well some men, not ALL men, become rather clingy, or want to chit-chat too often after they retire. So the covid work from home is really a trial run for what comes later...
My husband is only 48 so he has a way to go before he retires. Maybe it will be different one we both retire who knows.
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Old 02-24-2022, 05:46 PM
 
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I decided to revisit my post. Almost a year and a half later and I still feel the same way. Husband's changes have been positive--working from home, not commuting to the city everyday. He is still working from home.

Me--never time alone. Have not adjusted.

Still feel like I am going to burst...

I hate this Pandemic...
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Old 02-24-2022, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Redwood City, CA
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I decided to revisit my post. Almost a year and a half later and I still feel the same way. Husband's changes have been positive--working from home, not commuting to the city everyday. He is still working from home.

Me--never time alone. Have not adjusted.

Still feel like I am going to burst...

I hate this Pandemic...
I'm so sorry. I don't know how you stand it. I HAVE to have alone time, by any means necessary. My mental health is at stake.

It's sneaky and dishonest, but if he's been bugging me I wait until he goes out to the guest house to use his big screen computer, then I leave in the van. If I told him I was leaving he would clamor to go with me.
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Old 02-24-2022, 09:01 PM
 
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Can you get a she-shed or rent a small space for yourself?
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Old 02-25-2022, 04:32 PM
 
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I'm so sorry. I don't know how you stand it. I HAVE to have alone time, by any means necessary. My mental health is at stake.
I just wish he would leave the house for a day every week.
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Old 02-25-2022, 04:35 PM
 
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Can you get a she-shed or rent a small space for yourself?
It would not be the same as my home. I just spent a month away in New York State working. It was nice coming home to a quiet, by myself, hotel every night. But my stuff--the kitchen, my sewing room, etc. were not there. I will say it was a much needed break.
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Old 02-25-2022, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Redwood City, CA
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I just wish he would leave the house for a day every week.

You've tried asking nicely, I believe. Maybe it's time for an ultimatum?
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Old 02-25-2022, 05:20 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Some people shouldn't be married.
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Old 02-25-2022, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Tricity, PL
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Some people shouldn't be married.
True - it would drive me insane!!

Perhaps you could insist on separation, for a while, OP? Make it sound serious. This, or divorce. It's taking a toll on your mental health and I totally understand it.
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Old 02-25-2022, 06:28 PM
 
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It would not be the same as my home. I just spent a month away in New York State working. It was nice coming home to a quiet, by myself, hotel every night. But my stuff--the kitchen, my sewing room, etc. were not there. I will say it was a much needed break.
So, can you afford to build a man-cave for him somewhere? It sounds like it would be worth every penny. And stock it full of everything you can think of that would keep him amused: TV, booze, comfy chair, tools, hobbies, magazines, workout equipment, mini-fridge, microwave, etc., etc. It would be fun to design.
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