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Old 03-28-2022, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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I posted back on page 1. As we all see, COVID's not going away anytime soon. This is how our lives will be now from now on. I surely hope you can finally get used to it somehow, especially at the age that you are...not saying that in any kind of negative way, but you said you're in your mid-60s, so I'm sure at this point in your life, you weren't expecting life to become like this. None of us did.

I'm sorry that even w/ your husband holed up in his office all day for hours, that that's still not good for you. It must be a psychological thing for you because even if he's in his office for hours, I guess just you knowing that he's there still doesn't feel the same & it kind of isn't.

Re: my personal situation, I've worked remotely for the last 8 yrs now & love it. I've always wanted to work from home for the last 2 decades. I also did probably 1/2 or probably most of my higher learning remotely too. My fiance' who I live w/ always used to work outside the home pre-COVID too, but has been home too since COVID started. Our big difference though is that we honestly & genuinely love being together 24/7. We don't really go anyplace w/o the other person & that was way pre-COVID too. Do we like the house to ourselves, sure, but I guess we don't have to have it. Heck, we geuinely love grocery shopping & we love even doing that together.


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...I work at a job where I am around hundreds of people everyday that need me. Talking pretty much for eight hours. I like my work a lot--I just need some quiet time. Pretty much everyone I work with says the same thing--we need time alone to reboot ourselves.

I came to the Mental Health forum. Not the relationship forum. I think it is okay and normal to feel a bit sad, depressed in these times. There are a lot of good things about my life, and yes I have gratitude for having a family. It does not mean I love them less because I need time alone.

I know you said w/ your job, there are TONS of people around, so it's understandable if you want alone time at home, but it seems just a little...that your husband/son(s) kind of suffers in a way because that's the type of person you are. He's still your husband just like you still have your son(s) who's back living w/ you now, so hopefully they're not made to feel like they always have to be gone or something. They have every right to be there to enjoy the house too.

So, let me ask you this...when you're at home together, do YOU interact / converse w/ them at all OR are you just so seething that you wish you had the house to yourself that you don't even want to talk to your husband & son(s) & you stay in your part or side of the house so you can be alone? Just think if your husband & son(s) had your intense mentality about needing alone time. It would be like 2-3+ people living in the house, but no one interacts w/ each other, except only when they absolutely have to...that's quite sad actually. It's like (silent) ships just passing through the night.
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Old 04-17-2022, 12:30 PM
 
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So, let me ask you this...when you're at home together, do YOU interact / converse w/ them at all OR are you just so seething that you wish you had the house to yourself that you don't even want to talk to your husband & son(s) & you stay in your part or side of the house so you can be alone? Just think if your husband & son(s) had your intense mentality about needing alone time. It would be like 2-3+ people living in the house, but no one interacts w/ each other, except only when they absolutely have to...that's quite sad actually. It's like (silent) ships just passing through the night.
We have dinner together every night at the dinner table. And no, I am not seething. We interact all the time. I promise you, they are not suffering! I never really talk about it at home to them anymore because it just is the way it is. I talked about it in the beginning of the pandemic when everything changed overnight. It was a difficult sudden adjustment. I still miss my old life--it just is the way it is. Some things can't be changed. There have been adjustments.
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