Why are south Floridians so unfriendly? (Miami, Hialeah: real estate, taxi, restaurants)

[Marc Middleton]

Originally Posted by ruski

And why did you move to Miami in the first place?

probably for work I'm assuming. Lots of people come here on 1 or 2 year contracts with certain types of employment (i.e. Medical, construction).

Sorry its been so bad. Yes, businesses can be rude or scamming, it really depends on where you're going. We ended up in Aventura area and the publix there was good, not great. Aventura mall drivers were awful, but the stores themselves had great people in them (Tory Burch, Tesla store, the playground employees, wait staff at Grand Lux,) but then it also had some rude people as well (Sears, before it closed was the worst. Yogurt place by movie theatre on 1st floor, etc etc.)

South Beach used to be great but its gone downhill a bit sadly. Collins & Washington has some real crap but Lincoln Rd is still nice, West Ave/Bay Rd are great streets to live in, South of Fifth as well, Art Park area, Sunset Harbour, Belle Isle.

You can find your paradise in Miami, you just have to look for it and figure out what is most important to you. (i.e square footage vs walk-ability). The people won't change, but there are areas where they aren't many bad people. Coconut Grove is probably the tops of that list.

[boston904]

Originally Posted by downtownnola

I really don't understand it.

I love Florida in the winter. Noting like landing into 80 degree weather when it's cold up north.

I've honestly met my boiling point with the mean and nasty people in south Florida. Why are people so rude to visitors? They are rude on the phone. They are rude on the roads. Rude to tourists. Rude to each other. And, people claim New Yorkers are rude. They don't hold a candle to the barbaric attitudes in south Florida.

Why is south Florida so rude, especially to to tourists and people who want to spend money in and boost their economy?

[Notfromhere2019]

Miami is a hot mess. So sad for a beautiful place with so much potential - the rudeness makes it comparable to the dirtiest sewers.

I moved here for a job and have never seen so much barbaric behaviors. This is beyond people greeting you or holding doors. It is even at the workplace, where people are waiting to attack ‘just in case’ you attack them first because they are unaware of what true kindness is.

In the workplace, it is so tough to get a decent job. Miami is a city where corporate and personal bullying is condoned and you are considered weak if you don’t assimilate to it. People climb over each other and beat each other down to get ahead. The sad part is we are a right to work state, so the kind people get thrown under the bus and HR cannot do much to protect you. If you ask me, Miami has become tougher than NY to survive in. Only thing that saves it is no state tax.

[Cane Guy]

I lived in Miami from 1988 to 1993 while I attended graduate school at UM. I came from Virginia. My apartment mate came from Arizona. One night he and I went out to get something to eat at one of the local pollo places and faced the same kind of curt, bordering on rude attitude of the people who worked there that we had both gotten used to while living in Miami. My roommate turned to me and said, "Why does it seem that so many people in Miami just don't seem to give a damn?" In that one question, he synopsized what I had been thinking about so many people that I had run across in Miami during my time there. That really is the way that so many there come across to people from other parts of the country.

[itinérant]

Originally Posted by Notfromhere2019

Miami is a hot mess. So sad for a beautiful place with so much potential - the rudeness makes it comparable to the dirtiest sewers.

I moved here for a job and have never seen so much barbaric behaviors. This is beyond people greeting you or holding doors. It is even at the workplace, where people are waiting to attack ‘just in case’ you attack them first because they are unaware of what true kindness is.

In the workplace, it is so tough to get a decent job. Miami is a city where corporate and personal bullying is condoned and you are considered weak if you don’t assimilate to it. People climb over each other and beat each other down to get ahead. The sad part is we are a right to work state, so the kind people get thrown under the bus and HR cannot do much to protect you. If you ask me, Miami has become tougher than NY to survive in. Only thing that saves it is no state tax.

I just think it's one of those cities where the advantages (arguably best weather in the US, nice beaches, relative affordability, no state taxes, smoking hot women, opportunities to use Spanish [if that's your thing]) outweigh the disadvantages (rude/vain people, bad traffic/drivers, discrimination against non-Hispanics, overpriced housing market, limited job opportunities for unskilled workers).

I also think you should look on the bright side some. Not every single person is vain/rude.

While many are, they aren't that hard to deal with. However rude, they are not prying. Just stay in your own lane and other people will stay in their's.

Admittedly, every now and then, I must adhere to the philosophy of, "If you can't beat them, join them." While I'm not aggressive in public (or at work) by any means, sometimes I can be pretty unfriendly and blunt. While these vain/rude/(passive)aggressive people can dish it out, I find that they can't take it. Sometimes here your best defense is your offense.

I want to make clear, however, that this is only situational counteragression. My main method of dealing with these people is too ignore them and focus on my own happiness, which is growing here.

[Corrie22]

I think you guys are just hanging in the wrong places.....I don't run into rude people much at all...hardly ever
...don't pay any attention to it if I do

[Enigma777]

Originally Posted by Corrie22

I think you guys are just hanging in the wrong places.....I don't run into rude people much at all...hardly ever
...don't pay any attention to it if I do

Me neither. I will confess that I get annoyed at the out of state cars South Fla is flooded with every year from November to May, that seem to feel it is totally ok to stop in the middle of the road--yes, they just stop in the middle of the road--while people are forced to go around them, cross three lanes of traffic to make a left hand turn at a stop light, crawl along while looking for their turn with no indication they are turning, ad nauseum. I am rude if it is rude to honk at them. But aren't they the ones being rude and inconsiderate? And the license plates are pretty much from all over the country these days--not the east coast. IN, IL, WI, TX, CA, AZ, PA, GA--from everywhere.

I find this need to tell residents that you hate their city very odd. When I travel, there are places I like and places I don't like. I have never then gone on to post my distaste for their cities, people, restaurants, or the myriad other things one can find to dislike about a place or tell them how rude they are, because doing that is pretty rude--how ironic. I don't really get why people spend their time doing that.

It is subjective. I lived on the west coast of Florida for a decade and pretty much despised it--the beaches are beautiful, but I did not like the culture at all. Could not wait to get out of there. To each his own.

[elchevere]

I agree, I have only run into mostly nice people in the areas I hang. Granted, they are nicer areas but still no issue with the overwhelming majority.

The only issues I have had seemingly are from locals who live outside the areas I live and hang in and/or tourists—like the insecure out of town putz over July 4 weekend who, incorrectly, accused me of taking a “sneak” pic of his lady (I was sending a friend a text) whom he obviously does not pay enough attention to. Then there are the tourists who got stuck with a Spanish only speaking Uber driver and think the entire region does not speak a lick of English, rather than their, god forbid, using Google Translate on their smartphone that one time and later got ripped off paying $100 for a margarita on, you got it, Ocean Drive...duh.

Originally Posted by Corrie22

I think you guys are just hanging in the wrong places.....I don't run into rude people much at all...hardly ever
...don't pay any attention to it if I do

[Corrie22]

elch...we do that on purpose....Florida DOT tries to collect as much out of state insurance as possible..

For a tourist town, it's a hoot....every exit is on the other side, swaps back and forth...and they don't tell you until you're on it!..and don't put signs out far enough that people have time to change lanes...and no tourist knows what the sign placement means

..my favorite is west bound on 836...the Palmetto south exit....no only is the overhead sign in the wrong lane....all the approach painted on the road for the south exit lane...says 826....until right before the actual exit....then it changes to 836...because that lane does both...but it gives people a heart attack every time if they don't know it

[BNBR]

Originally Posted by Corrie22

I think you guys are just hanging in the wrong places.....I don't run into rude people much at all...hardly ever
...don't pay any attention to it if I do

Agreed. For the most part, I find the people down here quite friendly and nice - but maybe more reserved. I've been places where there is a hardness/rudeness in the air. Notably NYC and Chicago. But I don't get that at all down in Florida.

We are definitely not southern hospitality. There is also a noticeably difference when you visit some southern towns/cities. Super friendly and they let you know it! We are kind of in between and neutral down here. The idea that everyone here is rude is a bit ridiculous.