Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Just trying to figure out what I can/should do at this point as my ex-wife keeps calling my command on issues that are spelled out and how to go about different things in the Divorce Decree, I don't see how my command can get onto me for item that are civil. I use to tell her if she had an issue take me to court. My command keeps telling me what to do in these matters in which I never listen b/c how can they tell me what to do when I have a court order telling me what to do.
Can I get a restraining order against her? We do have 3 children together which child support does come out of my check so nothing could bite me in the butt or anything.
I am in the state of TX, any help would be greatly appreciated.
Last edited by Poncho_NM; 11-28-2011 at 10:55 AM..
Reason: Fixed format. Looks like your using a word processor.
Since joining the Armed Forces, you are no longer a free citizen of a free country. You VOLUNTARILY put yourself in a position where your commanders CAN tell you what to do and you MUST follow their orders and directives. That's part of the contract you made with them.
Since joining the Armed Forces, you are no longer a free citizen of a free country. You VOLUNTARILY put yourself in a position where your commanders CAN tell you what to do and you MUST follow their orders and directives. That's part of the contract you made with them.
Do what they tell you.
I'm sorry, but this isn't true at all. The chain of command, a.k.a a 25-year-old with a liberal arts degree in some cases, does not have the authority to dictate to you what you need to do in a civil divorce case. Of course you have to follow lawful orders, but you need to be smart about it too. If you have someone in your chain of command who thinks they know the law better than the judge who is presiding in your case, you need to go to JAG. Get clarification, and then encourage JAG to educate your chain of command. Of course, exercise tact. Be professional.
My current chain has kinda stayed out of it, they actually been trying to help me but just b/c I am in the military they cannot make me go against a court order, etc.
My current chain has kinda stayed out of it, they actually been trying to help me but just b/c I am in the military they cannot make me go against a court order, etc.
You need to lay it out here.....do not BS us....your talking to a LOT of years of military....that have put up with types like you many times....
She can AND has talked to your CoC..It's already military....did you not figure that out? I was once a 1SG, for a few days, and all I could say was Ma'am I cannot do what you want....I can inform him that you called, but I cannot force him to call you!
You tell us the full story, or go to JAG......nothing we say or do will convince you....
Even if you tell us the full story, the only thing you can really do is go to JAG...
The Chain of Command still has limits in what orders are lawful orders and unlawful orders. They don't have total authority over every aspect of your life. They can't order him to pay more child support than the court did, or order him to give the kids to the ex more than the divorce decree dictates, ect. Those would not be lawful orders. Not everything falls into the realm of authority. They can't order you to sell your car if you are making payments, dye your hair blond, shower only at night, shop at a certain grocery store, vote for a certain candidate... ect. I know these are ridiculous examples, but I'm using them to illustrate that they don't control everything.
My command keeps telling me what to do in these matters in which I never listen b/c how can they tell me what to do when I hav ea court order telling me what to do.
Quote:
Originally Posted by bls8195
My current chain has kinda stayed out of it, they actually been trying to help me but just b/c I am in the military they cannot make me go against a court order, etc.
Which is it?
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
