Civilian Man (Male) Dating Army Officer Woman (Female) (Navy, stationed, positions)
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Hello, this is my first time posting about this topic and I was wondering if I would attract any decent opinions... I'm a 30 year old professional who is single with no kids. I met my current significant other via a paid, online, dating service about 7 months ago. We met in person 6 months ago. I live in the Pacific Northwest, and she lives about 1,200 miles East. I was not interested in pursuing her due to the distance, but she assured me that she is 1.5 years into a med-board retirement and it has always been her dream to move to my area.
Afteter going through all the "what-if" situations, I came to find that she is a special ops Army Officer who has served since she was 18. She is also 30 years old. Well, we see each other for about a week every month, whether I go visit her or she comes to visit me. I have never had a long distance relationship and was also skeptical, but it seems to be going well! Here is my issue: She still has not received her orders, we do have a very general timeline of when we think they will come. In the mean time, she is under an intense amount of stress, PTSD, and may (come to find) end up staying in the area she currently resides due to a job offer. This throws a wrench into our game plan, but I told her that since I love her I am willing to move just to be with her. We got into a couple intense fights the last two times we visited each other. I am posting this to not only vent, but to see if anyone has any opinion or input on this. I am naive about the military and she has taught me a lot. She can be stubborn and 'detached/desensitized' at times and that frustrates me. But I do love her. Again, she is a captain, officer, green beret, special ops, 12 years Army service, has been blown up, killed and seen death. PTSD and I'm not perfect either I'm there for her. Any advice on to how I should and can help her and I get through these crazy fights?
Hello, this is my first time posting about this topic and I was wondering if I would attract any decent opinions... I'm a 30 year old professional who is single with no kids. I met my current significant other via a paid, online, dating service about 7 months ago. We met in person 6 months ago. I live in the Pacific Northwest, and she lives about 1,200 miles East. I was not interested in pursuing her due to the distance, but she assured me that she is 1.5 years into a med-board retirement and it has always been her dream to move to my area.
Afteter going through all the "what-if" situations, I came to find that she is a special ops Army Officer who has served since she was 18. She is also 30 years old. Well, we see each other for about a week every month, whether I go visit her or she comes to visit me. I have never had a long distance relationship and was also skeptical, but it seems to be going well! Here is my issue: She still has not received her orders, we do have a very general timeline of when we think they will come. In the mean time, she is under an intense amount of stress, PTSD, and may (come to find) end up staying in the area she currently resides due to a job offer. This throws a wrench into our game plan, but I told her that since I love her I am willing to move just to be with her. We got into a couple intense fights the last two times we visited each other. I am posting this to not only vent, but to see if anyone has any opinion or input on this. I am naive about the military and she has taught me a lot. She can be stubborn and 'detached/desensitized' at times and that frustrates me. But I do love her. Again, she is a captain, officer, green beret, special ops, 12 years Army service, has been blown up, killed and seen death. PTSD and I'm not perfect either I'm there for her. Any advice on to how I should and can help her and I get through these crazy fights?
She is a liar. If she is lying about being a green beret then what else is she lying about? Move on.
Again I am naive about the military but i know she is special forces commando, airborn, she is an officer, among other things pehaps she just worked it has done special ops missions with green beret....
Again I am naive about the military but i know she is special forces commando, airborn, she is an officer, among other things pehaps she just worked it has done special ops missions with green beret....
She is not a "commando". Maybe she went to airborne school but that doesn't make her a "commando". A lot of the stuff you said such as joining at 18 and becoming a Captain by 30 doesn't add up. Her ability to spend a week with you every month is odd as well.
You met her on an online dating site?
I used to work with a woman that was a former Navy Seal. That and she was bat $hit crazy/delusional.
This woman is a liar. I wouldn't invest too much in her.
I appreciate your input and I am naive about the rankings and positions, however I have met (on her base) other officials, seen her awards, photos of when she became a captain and an officer. She was a captain medical officer. ... and got blown up (I was there for some of her surguries) so now she is in med board. I'vemet her PABLO as well. I don't think she is being deceitful inist find it extremely difficult to date her do to get lack of humility and her being so d sensitized.
She is not a "commando". Maybe she went to airborne school but that doesn't make her a "commando". A lot of the stuff you said such as joining at 18 and becoming a Captain by 30 doesn't add up. Her ability to spend a week with you every month is odd as well.
You met her on an online dating site?
I used to work with a woman that was a former Navy Seal. That and she was bat $hit crazy/delusional.
This woman is a liar. I wouldn't invest too much in her.
This is actually possible if she enlisted at 18 and was commissioned thereafter and made rank by that point. I know a guy that legitimately did this. However, it is unlikely.
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Originally Posted by Jp208
Hello, this is my first time posting about this topic and I was wondering if I would attract any decent opinions... I'm a 30 year old professional who is single with no kids. I met my current significant other via a paid, online, dating service about 7 months ago. We met in person 6 months ago. I live in the Pacific Northwest, and she lives about 1,200 miles East. I was not interested in pursuing her due to the distance, but she assured me that she is 1.5 years into a med-board retirement and it has always been her dream to move to my area.
Afteter going through all the "what-if" situations, I came to find that she is a special ops Army Officer who has served since she was 18. She is also 30 years old. Well, we see each other for about a week every month, whether I go visit her or she comes to visit me. I have never had a long distance relationship and was also skeptical, but it seems to be going well! Here is my issue: She still has not received her orders, we do have a very general timeline of when we think they will come. In the mean time, she is under an intense amount of stress, PTSD, and may (come to find) end up staying in the area she currently resides due to a job offer. This throws a wrench into our game plan, but I told her that since I love her I am willing to move just to be with her. We got into a couple intense fights the last two times we visited each other. I am posting this to not only vent, but to see if anyone has any opinion or input on this. I am naive about the military and she has taught me a lot. She can be stubborn and 'detached/desensitized' at times and that frustrates me. But I do love her. Again, she is a captain, officer, green beret, special ops, 12 years Army service, has been blown up, killed and seen death. PTSD and I'm not perfect either I'm there for her. Any advice on to how I should and can help her and I get through these crazy fights?
This story is pretty unlikely. If she was medically boarded and retired 1.5 years ago (very rare to get this without 15 years in), then she would have had her orders right when she received her medical retirement.
If I were you, I would request to see her DD-214 (separation/retirement paperwork). You don't need to do it in an accusatory way. Just say something like "Hey that's cool. I'd really like to see it."
Also, check out this site: guardiansofvalor.com. There's a lot of info about stolen valor on there, which actually is relatively common.
So, she is a Captain, Medical Corps. Nurse or Doctor?
Where is she stationed that is an Army base 1200 miles East of the Pacific Northwest?
Does she wear jump wings on her jacket? If not, she is not a qualified parachutist.
How many rows of "fruit salad" does she wear above her left pocket? Ask her to explain what all of them mean.
Why invest so much to someone who is crazy? Dump her, even if this is all true.
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