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Old 10-13-2019, 02:29 AM
 
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I have been talking to a soldier for about 4 months on the phone whom I met on a dating site. We have become quite close and our convos are great. We speak and text everyday. He was stationed in Miami when we first started talking (I live in SF). Then he got sent to Indonesia on a mission and we continue to talk on the cell phones.

Curious thing is my cell phone never gets charged for international calls. We speak cell phone to cell phone.

Then he tells me he wants me to hold money for him. His Acct in Indonesia got locked. His Acct and everyone on his team. So he had an 80,000 cashiers check fedexed to me. He said it was for work he did years ago. I was shocked when I received it. He just asked for me to hold it and nothing more.

Now we spoke this morning and he said he spoke with his commander about retiring from the army. (He’s 56 and in the army quite a while). He wants to come home to be with me. I must confess I really like him. He never asked for anything all these months. But he told me this morning that his commander said that if he wanted to retire and he was in the states it would be free. But because he’s on a mission in a foreign country it would cost 30,000 to release him. I would have to send a cashiers check and go thru agents in order for him to receive the money. When he would receive the money he would do the paper work and be home in 2 weeks.

He said as soon as he’s home he would give me the money back. I’m holding his check for 80,000 and to trust him to give me the money back. Then we could start dating and our life together.

Thoughts? Does any of this sound legit or am I beings scammed. He sounds sooooooi sincere.
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Old 10-13-2019, 04:50 AM
 
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Stop having any contact with him NOW! He's a scammer. No one in the U.S. military has to pay to retire from the service regardless of where they are when they retire. I'm retired Army so I know what I'm talking about. One more thing, tear up that cashiers check, it's worthless.
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Old 10-13-2019, 06:16 AM
 
Location: Wartrace,TN
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100% scam. This guy is just playing a variation of the old "overpay and refund scam" This is how it works usually. The scammer sends a check for something but it is way over the agreed upon amount. The scammer suggests you cash his check and send the balance back in a money order or western union. You cash his bad check and only find out its worthless when its too late. You're out they money you sent.

He is not a soldier; he is a criminal. He is looking to get paid 30k for a couple of months of sweet talking you.
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Old 10-13-2019, 08:23 AM
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Location: Endicott, NY
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Run fast and far from this.
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Old 10-13-2019, 08:52 AM
 
Location: New Mexico U.S.A.
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Thoughts? Does any of this sound legit or am I beings scammed. He sounds sooooooi sincere.
It does not sound legit!

Yes, you are being scammed!

Of course he sounds sooooooi sincere, you have been hooked....

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So he had an 80,000 cashiers check fedexed to me. He said it was for work he did years ago. I was shocked when I received it. He just asked for me to hold it and nothing more.
I would bet that it is a bogus check.... It will bounce higher than a kite on a windy day...

Stay away from that individual and the organization you found him at. Break off all contact with the individual without any further contact.

The previous three replies are absolutely correct!

Go to this web page, which may help: https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/20...national-scams

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Reporting international scams


October 13, 2015
by Colleen Tressler
Consumer Education Specialist, FTC

If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you’ve heard us say repeatedly to report scams to the FTC. If you report scams to us, we can bring the kinds of cases that shut down the scammers.

But there’s another place to report international scams, too: econsumer.gov. Maybe you’ve done business with an overseas company that hasn’t lived up to its end of the deal. Perhaps you got “winning” lottery notices from another country, or got asked to send money overseas to secure your international job. If you’ve spotted a scam that crosses international borders, you can file a report at econsumer.gov.
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Old 10-13-2019, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Nor’ East
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Keep him on the hook, and visit your local police precinct see what they say.
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Old 10-13-2019, 10:37 AM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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I have been talking to a soldier for about 4 months on the phone whom I met on a dating site. We have become quite close and our convos are great. We speak and text everyday. He was stationed in Miami when we first started talking (I live in SF). Then he got sent to Indonesia on a mission and we continue to talk on the cell phones.

Curious thing is my cell phone never gets charged for international calls. We speak cell phone to cell phone.

Then he tells me he wants me to hold money for him. His Acct in Indonesia got locked. His Acct and everyone on his team. So he had an 80,000 cashiers check fedexed to me. He said it was for work he did years ago. I was shocked when I received it. He just asked for me to hold it and nothing more.

Now we spoke this morning and he said he spoke with his commander about retiring from the army. (He’s 56 and in the army quite a while). He wants to come home to be with me. I must confess I really like him. He never asked for anything all these months. But he told me this morning that his commander said that if he wanted to retire and he was in the states it would be free. But because he’s on a mission in a foreign country it would cost 30,000 to release him. I would have to send a cashiers check and go thru agents in order for him to receive the money. When he would receive the money he would do the paper work and be home in 2 weeks.

He said as soon as he’s home he would give me the money back. I’m holding his check for 80,000 and to trust him to give me the money back. Then we could start dating and our life together.

Thoughts? Does any of this sound legit or am I beings scammed. He sounds sooooooi sincere.
Holy duck you can’t be serious. You are not holding a check. You’re holding a worthless piece of paper with some info printed on it. You are being scammed. The whole story is bull crap.
I would have the cops look into it before you break off contact. Maybe they can catch him.


Im notvsure if you’re just making this up to get attention but if you aren’t you are about to lose 30,000 dollars if you send this “guy you’re dating” the money.


Also stop dating guys online. It’s not real dating.

I can’t believe in this day and age people still fall for this bs online crap.
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Old 10-13-2019, 10:56 AM
 
Location: New Mexico U.S.A.
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October 13, 2015
by Colleen Tressler
Consumer Education Specialist, FTC

If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you’ve heard us say repeatedly to report scams to the FTC. If you report scams to us, we can bring the kinds of cases that shut down the scammers.

But there’s another place to report international scams, too: econsumer.gov. Maybe you’ve done business with an overseas company that hasn’t lived up to its end of the deal. Perhaps you got “winning” lottery notices from another country, or got asked to send money overseas to secure your international job. If you’ve spotted a scam that crosses international borders, you can file a report at econsumer.gov.

Entire Article at: https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/20...national-scams
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Old 10-13-2019, 11:34 AM
 
Location: Wartrace,TN
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Federal Trade Commission
Consumer Information



Reporting international scams
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October 13, 2015
by Colleen Tressler
Consumer Education Specialist, FTC

If you’re a regular reader of this blog, you’ve heard us say repeatedly to report scams to the FTC. If you report scams to us, we can bring the kinds of cases that shut down the scammers.

But there’s another place to report international scams, too: econsumer.gov. Maybe you’ve done business with an overseas company that hasn’t lived up to its end of the deal. Perhaps you got “winning” lottery notices from another country, or got asked to send money overseas to secure your international job. If you’ve spotted a scam that crosses international borders, you can file a report at econsumer.gov.

Entire Article at: https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/blog/20...national-scams
I agree. He is probably running this scam on many women. He probably has been successful in the past stealing money from lonely hearts. I would consider it your DUTY to report the guy.
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Old 10-13-2019, 03:36 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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May I just add SCAM. Classic romance scam - do NOT send any money!!! Let me guess, you have never video chatted with him and don't really know what he looks like. Do a reverse image search on any pictures you have of him, chances are they will be stolen. He is probably lives in a third world country, hoping for a big payout.


ETA - I follow a "widow" page on Facebook. Every time I comment on a post, I get friend requests from "military Men." The pics look good, and they have a name like John Marshall, but when you go to their FB page, and look in the address bar, the real name is something like, satyamudiraj.danda. They usually aren't too bright.
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