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Old 09-10-2010, 09:05 AM
 
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I am in my mid 30's and I move here, feel very lonely. The Twin Cities is total family type. Everywhere you go, you have to have family. I feel very lonely here, like I don't belong. Almost want to move to a place better for singles. Anyone here like me? How do you feel about it? Are there places better than others where you feel better about this?

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Old 09-10-2010, 09:12 AM
 
Location: Minneapolis, MN
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I am in my mid 30's and I move here, feel very lonely. The Twin Cities is total family type. Everywhere you go, you have to have family. I feel very lonely here, like I don't belong. Almost want to move to a place better for singles. Anyone here like me? How do you feel about it? Are there places better than others where you feel better about this?

Thanks
Yeah, overall I'd probably agree with you. What part of the Twin Cities are you living in right now? If you're staying in this area for a while you may want to consider moving into an area that is less family oriented and more young professional oriented.
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Old 09-10-2010, 09:13 AM
 
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I in Roseville area (surrounding). It is not comfortable...thank you for the help.
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Old 09-10-2010, 09:37 AM
 
Location: Minneapolis, MN
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From my experiences most of the suburbs are typically more family oriented. I'm in my late 20's and we don't have kids yet. Of course personal preferences vary, but I personally get bored hanging out in the suburbs. You ever consider moving into Minneapolis or St. Paul or at least hanging out there more often? There is more going on in the city and you're probably more likely to meet new people in areas like Uptown, Downtown, Dinkytown and the college areas of St. Paul. Joining groups and clubs helps alot too. I play in co-ed soccer in city leagues and meet alot of people that way. Others meet new people by joining churches.
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Old 09-10-2010, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Home in NOMI
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I first planned to write a nasty note to the OP, telling him to get off his hiney and meet people. But isjkk1 is new to this country, so I have to reconsider.

When you're lonely and hunger for human contact, the best thing to do is go to where people are that you might feel comfortable with. In addition to all the clubs, bars, restaurants and other entertainment venues that attract the general public, there are several social clubs and restaurants along Nicollet Ave and Lake Street catering to young African men, maybe you already know some of them. But from what I've seen, women don't hang in those places, they probably find other places to socialize, like a church or mosque. If you don't mind the religion, church makes for a safe, family approved, and supportive environment to meet others.

Also consider attending a community college or learning center; when I went to Metro State University a few years back I met people from all over, that all are working to better their lives through education.

Good luck connecting with like minded people here.
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Old 09-10-2010, 10:23 AM
 
Location: Columbus OH
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I'd suggest determining what your interests are and finding an appropriate club or group. There are all kinds of skiing, biking, hiking, beer/wine, dining, and book clubs which have a lot of unattached adults as members. Look in City Pages or other local publications to find out what clubs or activities are going on. Or enroll in a community ed class.

I agree though that you're more likely to find unattached adults in the city than the suburbs.
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Old 09-10-2010, 10:49 AM
 
Location: MN
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I'd suggest determining what your interests are and finding an appropriate club or group. There are all kinds of skiing, biking, hiking, beer/wine, dining, and book clubs which have a lot of unattached adults as members. Look in City Pages or other local publications to find out what clubs or activities are going on. Or enroll in a community ed class.

I agree though that you're more likely to find unattached adults in the city than the suburbs.
meetup dot com is another good place to look for groups with similar interests.
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Old 09-10-2010, 11:18 AM
 
Location: Colorado
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Attending a class, joining a club, taking up some kind of sport - all these are very good suggestions. I know how you feel by the way. It took me a at least a couple of years before I started to make close friends in the area. You just have to persevere. Good luck!
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Old 09-10-2010, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Home in NOMI
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meetup dot com is another good place to look for groups with similar interests.
Seconded. I belong to the Minneapolis Speculative Fiction Writers workshop, one of the groups under the meetup.com banner. If you're a sci-fi geek you might enjoy meeting some of these people.
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Old 09-10-2010, 02:44 PM
 
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I first planned to write a nasty note to the OP, telling him to get off his hiney and meet people. But isjkk1 is new to this country, so I have to reconsider.

When you're lonely and hunger for human contact, the best thing to do is go to where people are that you might feel comfortable with. In addition to all the clubs, bars, restaurants and other entertainment venues that attract the general public, there are several social clubs and restaurants along Nicollet Ave and Lake Street catering to young African men, maybe you already know some of them. But from what I've seen, women don't hang in those places, they probably find other places to socialize, like a church or mosque. If you don't mind the religion, church makes for a safe, family approved, and supportive environment to meet others.

Also consider attending a community college or learning center; when I went to Metro State University a few years back I met people from all over, that all are working to better their lives through education.

Good luck connecting with like minded people here.
No not new to USA, but feel so alone and lonely. Do you live nearby? Please PM me woudl like to talk more with you. Thank you.
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