Interracial/Multiethnic Couple Moving to Minnesota (high school, college, racist)

[Saza Korse]

Originally Posted by LowTune

Afraid of powerful women? Nope, I just resent matriarchal societies.

Matriachal societies have powerful women though, so you seem to be contradicting yourself. If you resent matriarchal societies, then you resent societies with powerful women. I can't think of a rational human being who thinks powerful women is a problematic aspect of society. Weak women isn't conducive to a productive society, DUH.

[Apple Tree]

The twin cities are a metro area, with large companies, universities, and many different ethnic backgrounds. Anywhere in the metro, I think you would really like it. To compare it to other parts of the country, I think it will feel a bit like the Northeast to you culturally (except that Minnesotans like to be outside a lot more).

Going out into smaller rural towns, you might not feel as embraced.... many of those towns either don't have many IR couples, or the minority populations might tend to be more segregated. But the same can be said for rural areas across the country -- NY, Pennsylvania, Texas, Colorado, California. That is more of a rural America thing than a Minnesota thing.

I think you would love the twin cities.

[polo_golf_guy]

IR (wm & bw) married couple here. We live in Brooklyn Park not very far from Minneapolis and have had a great experience here. Our children go to a diverse school with many different IR children. Occasional jerks of all colors but we haven't had any racial outbursts or outright disrespectful behavior like we encountered during a trip through Tennessee and Mississippi.

We also have lived in metro Denver and found that a nice fit as well. We spend some time each year in Atlanta with family but could not see that as a solid fit for our family.

Don't pay attention to that auto tuner as he has been here asking questions like a troll and admittedly hasn't ever been here.

[kpierro]

A lot of mixed race relationships and children here. My boyfriend is Hmong and I am white. Our 3 month old son is both and everyone in our family has accepted everything. My son has children in his daycare that are black/white, hmong/mexican, etc. I've lived here my entire life. There will always be a few people that are the exception but people here are mainly mixed races.

[League54]

Originally Posted by LowTune

Afraid of powerful women? Nope, I just resent matriarchal societies.

wait a minute...

Are most interracial couples in Minnesota, matriarchal ?

Do women financially support their men ?

[LowTune]

Originally Posted by Saza Korse

Matriachal societies have powerful women though, so you seem to be contradicting yourself. If you resent matriarchal societies, then you resent societies with powerful women. I can't think of a rational human being who thinks powerful women is a problematic aspect of society. Weak women isn't conducive to a productive society, DUH.

I'm not sure if you're trolling or if you're just ignorant... I'm sure many patriarchal societies have powerful women as well, so the premise of your argument is unbelievably flawed. Matriarchal** societies and societies who happen to have powerful women aren't always the exact same.

[Saza Korse]

Originally Posted by polo_golf_guy

IR (wm & bw) married couple here. We live in Brooklyn Park not very far from Minneapolis and have had a great experience here. Our children go to a diverse school with many different IR children. Occasional jerks of all colors but we haven't had any racial outbursts or outright disrespectful behavior like we encountered during a trip through Tennessee and Mississippi.

We also have lived in metro Denver and found that a nice fit as well. We spend some time each year in Atlanta with family but could not see that as a solid fit for our family.

Don't pay attention to that auto tuner as he has been here asking questions like a troll and admittedly hasn't ever been here.

You're super helpful! We were also considering Denver, but decided to look into Minneapolis instead. Our drive from Virginia to Texas was pretty scary, like I felt like people seriously wanted to physically hurt us just for being together.

And thanks for the tip about the troll.

[StPaulGal]

I am absolutely, positively shocked that anyone in this day and age would actually say something negative to you. Like, beyond flabbergasted. So I suppose that speaks well of your chances here?

I am not naïve. I know that bigots exist everywhere, and institutional racism is is an enduring problem even among people who think they are more enlightened than that. I am pretty aware of social justice concerns.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you will be sure to encounter some number of people who secretly have negative reactions to your relationship, but I cannot fathom anyone here actually accosting you about it. It is due to some combination of people (a) not wanting to be seen as sh*tty racists and (b) being relatively non-confrontational in general.

[Mason3000]

Originally Posted by StPaulGal

I am absolutely, positively shocked that anyone in this day and age would actually say something negative to you. Like, beyond flabbergasted. So I suppose that speaks well of your chances here?

I am not naïve. I know that bigots exist everywhere, and institutional racism is is an enduring problem even among people who think they are more enlightened than that. I am pretty aware of social justice concerns.

I guess what I am trying to say is that you will be sure to encounter some number of people who secretly have negative reactions to your relationship, but I cannot fathom anyone here actually accosting you about it. It is due to some combination of people (a) not wanting to be seen as sh*tty racists and (b) being relatively non-confrontational in general.

How do you know the people who said things were White? My wife is from the Caribbean so I guess we fall into the "interracial couple" category (although it's not something we ever think about or define ourselves by). I have never once had an ugly comment towards my wife & I, EXCEPT from Black people. Poor, Black males specifically, seem to feel pretty comfortable saying ugly, racist things if it suits them. Even then it's basically a non factor in our lives.

[Mason3000]

Originally Posted by Saza Korse

You're super helpful! We were also considering Denver, but decided to look into Minneapolis instead. Our drive from Virginia to Texas was pretty scary, like I felt like people seriously wanted to physically hurt us just for being together.

And thanks for the tip about the troll.

I've driven the SE with my wife & have never had that feeling at all. Could it be that you're so concerned about racism that you find it because you're constantly looking for it? It's just something so insignificant to us that I never even take it into consideration.