What kind of loan are you talking about ? Connecticut Housing Finance Authority loans and FHA loans are not quite the same thing.
CHFA loans have to be backed by either HUD/FHA or the VA. However, CHFA has its own guidelines and limits and is underwritten to those guildelines. Your husband's income is well under the maximum for Fairfield county. I've included a link so you can see what the maximum purchase amount would be for the county.
Look first at income, then scroll down to see towns limits by county
http://www.chfa.org/content/CHFA%20D...10-15-2012.pdf
Your greater than typical down payment has no bearing on the loan. You simply cannot buy a home greater than the maximum sale price allotted. Example, say the price limit is $ 500,00. You must buy a home $500,000 or under no matter how much the down payment. Go to the CHFA website for more info, take one of their homeowner classes and /or talk to a lender who does these loans.
CHFA is a great program if you can use it as the current rate is just 2.75%. Straight FHA, not CHFA/FHA is something different.
These are regular HUD/FHA home price limits & income limits for CT
FHA Loan Limits for CONNECTICUT
https://sites.google.com/site/connec...-income-limits
Once again, speak to a lender familiar with the loans.