Thank you all for your comments. Ill look into a few other areas, but cherry hill, vorheese, and headed field are a bit far for my husband to commute. I know parts of the world have excepted the "changing worl" but I have rented places in Maryland I would NEVER.move to with my family ( backwoods thinking is saying it lightly) as for the cliche of my marriage I was in the first group in the movement, so we have been through and left places over the biggotrey, although it has gotten way better there is still that one town you want to avoid and I just want to make sure my family isn't moving there.
thanks again everyone