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Old 05-23-2014, 08:59 AM
 
Location: Randolph, NJ
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Why are so many people in North Jersey so MEAN, ANGRY and RUDE?

I was asked this question today by a family member who is visiting from out of state. For me, I guess its just the culture of NJ in which we are raised.
Oh, just tell them to S-T-F-U-!!!


 
Old 05-23-2014, 09:01 AM
 
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Why are so many people in North Jersey so MEAN, ANGRY and RUDE?

I was asked this question today by a family member who is visiting from out of state. For me, I guess its just the culture of NJ in which we are raised.
High taxes, corruption, and bad roads they voted for.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 09:03 AM
 
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People in NJ are just miserable and grumpy. Their lives are consumed of work work work and high taxes. Take a trip to south jersey and it's a night and day difference.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 11:07 AM
 
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Well, let me say that I lived in JERSEY CITY so that may explain a lot.

I have a thousand examples but it's late and I have to log off soon. But it would be normal things such as going to a Taco Bell (gave the cashier a $10 bill for $1.75 food bill and she gave me back 3 singles, another single, and some coins instead of a 3 singles, a five dollar bill, and coins. I had driven down Rte 1-9N when I noticed so I called the number on the receipt and explained with happened to the mgr. The mgr appeared to be familiar with my story and was apologetic at all. In fact, she started hemming and hawing as if she'd been caught with her hand in the cookie jar. She said to give her a few minutes and she'll call me back once she checked. When she didn't, I called her back and the phone rang and rang, they wouldn't pick up. I made sure that I dialed the correct number, I pressed redial on my phone. Over a five lousy dollars the manager laid low. I dropped the matter because I didn't have time to drive back and argue about my correct change.

I saw a discount special sign outside a storage facility so I went inside to rent a storage space. The employee said "oh, uh we don't have any more of the discount storage space left but you can have this storage room for X dollars". I responded ok, I'll think about it. He then handed me their business card so I said I'll reserve the room online. He then said (admitted in a lower voice) "uh, you'll find cheaper rates when you go on our website than what I gave you." Hmm, why is that? "I don't know but that's how the company set it up".

Last story tonight, when I lived in NJ (for a year) a new management company bought our bldg from a single individual owner (months after I moved in). They informed the tenants via letter two weeks before the rent was due that they now owned the building and that rent can now be paid online four convenience. I went through all of the hassle of creating an online account on their website (which was filled with broken links and I had to call the management company several times to straighten it out). The receptionist assured me that I could pay online without problem. After all of the hiccups from their website, I finally got registered and entered my credit card information. Each task had it's own screen instead of everything being on one screen or two screens at the most. When I finally got to the 9th screen, it said please press SUBMIT. So I did. Then I notice in very tiny font (6 pt) the words "You will be charged a $27 processing fee for using a credit card". I kid you not! No notice in the letter from the management company of this exorbitant charge nor any indication on the website anywhere until you're at the last screen and right as you hit SUBMIT, the notice comes up. Needless to say, I never paid rent online to them again. I mailed a check. But this kind of thing was typical of my experience in dealing with NJ businesses.
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I don't think people from NJ are mean, angry and rude. Obviously, some are, because we have all types of people here, but we have friendly people, as well. However, waving at people working on the street from your car is just ridiculous. Why on earth would you do that if you don't know them? I would say hello to them if I were out walking and passed them along the way, but driving by? That's not being friendly, that's just being weird and seems designed to attract attention to yourself.

The fast pace around here compared to slower parts of the country may account for some of it. Because it's necessary to move quickly here because of the dense population cutting into time constraints, you must think on your feet. If someone mosies into a deli and stands there mulling over the selections and isn't ready to order when he or she is at the register, people who ARE ready and are behind you are going to be frustrated, and rightfully so. Be ready to order when it's time for you to order, or step aside off the line until you ARE ready. This is common sense, and I think acting like no one else but YOU is there is rude.
I agree completely! Yes, needless to say I was extremely confused and even a bit creeped out when she waved at the guys and expected them to wave back. Seriously, who does that? I don't even know if that's a CA thing or just something she does, but I know we don't do it here. She always tells me that when it comes to talking to/waving at/smiling at strangers, they do it where she's from and we don't (though thats not always true, especially the smiling part). I agree with your example about standing on line at the deli or something, yes, we're busy, crowded, dense around here, if you're in line ahead of me but are unsure as to what you want, I will go ahead of you. That's not being unfriendly or rude, it's just doing what makes sense, and the person you're going in front of should allow you to do so out of common courtesy.

It's just a different pace of life around here, I guess. Coming from somewhere less populated, crowded, and busy may make it seem like people here are rude and mean. While I sometimes come across people who genuinely are rude and mean, I am used to this fast-paced way of life so I don't find the way people generally act around me to be abnormal or bad. I think that every place has good and bad people and that people claiming we around here are so terrible is just either stereotypes or people not being used to how we are. Just because culturally we are a bit different doesn't mean we all suck.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 11:14 AM
 
Location: NYC
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NNJ is crowded, traffic is bad during the day and you have a bad mix of slow drivers and impatient ones. Add to that a lot of folks in NNJ who live in McMansions think they are at the top of their world.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 12:07 PM
 
Location: NJ
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I don't find people to be mean, nasty and rude where I live in NNJ. Where I grew up? Yeah maybe. My brother calls where I live now "Mayberry" because how caring and compassionate people are here.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 12:08 PM
 
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What exactly happened to cause your family member to say that? Was someone actually mean/rude to him/her (and did you witness it?) and angry about something? Or did this person infer (possibly based on stereotypes) that we all suck because we don't usually say hi to each other on the sidewalk or in line at a store or something?

Also, where is this family member from?

I have a friend from Orange County, CA who says similar things about people from New Jersey and the rest of the NYC area, usually because we rarely will say hi to strangers around here and strike up conversation with random people around us. We also tend to not wave to other drivers or at people on the street from our cars, which apparently they do? She was in the car with me one day, actually last week, and she randomly waved to guys who were working out on the street, total strangers obviously, and they gave her the most puzzled look. She was like, "what, you guys don't do that?" And I asked, while looking at her like she was a total freak, "… do what?" Apparently, where she's from, it's normal to wave at complete strangers from your car. I told her that no, it's definitely not normal and I got the whole bit about how we're not friendly and we're just different than people where she's from. Oh well. I resist the urge to tell her that she chose to move here, and if she doesn't like it, she can go back.

Anyway, this of course is not true for everyone, maybe some in NJ will talk to strangers or wave at people, but in general we are less friendly with one another in daily life around those we don't know. I don't see a problem in this. I see no use talking to someone I will see for 3 minutes while I'm on line or on the street and will probably never see again. I guess it is cultural but I think it is way overstated and over-exaggerated. We just have different priorities around here, I guess.

The family member is my sister. She's born and raised in New Jersey. However, she has been living in Arizona for the past 10 years. What happened was that she ''accidentally'' said ''hi'' to a lady at the while waiting at a NJT train station on the NE Corridor line. The lady in turn gave my sister a mean look and rolled her eyes.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 12:08 PM
 
Location: NJ
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I met a few VERY rude ppl in Indiana, therefore all people in Indiana are RUDE MEAN AND NASTY!
 
Old 05-23-2014, 12:48 PM
 
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Most people that ask that question are really asking "why aren't people exactly like me and have the same way of doing things?". They probably expected someone at the local malt shop to give the pop on a tab that they would pay when they were leaving town.
 
Old 05-23-2014, 01:02 PM
 
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Because the whole state is a rat race, everyone is constantly trying to get ahead of each other. It's congested, with too many friggin people all living in the same small spot.
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