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Old 12-08-2016, 12:06 AM
 
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I received a weird message from my sister asking me for my email address (which I recently changed) so that her daughter, my niece, can send me an email asking if I will be attending my niece's wedding. She's sending these emails to everybody. Then, the only people who will be sent invitations are the people who respond via email to say they plan to come.

Is this the latest thing in weddings now? Seems odd to me.
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Old 12-08-2016, 08:47 AM
 
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Seems like a very weird way to try and keep costs down for wedding invitations. Also, your sister might not know everything about the situation or have gotten some things wrong.

So, are you going? Who are you wearing?!
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Old 12-08-2016, 01:15 PM
 
Location: NJ
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That seems like an awful lot of work to manage, with little reward. I mean, if you email 100 people and only 75 respond to say they are coming, how much money are you really saving by sending 75 invitations instead of 100? And a lot of people don't even read email anymore. What if someone who wanted to come to the wedding didn't get the email or forgets to respond?
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Old 12-08-2016, 01:45 PM
 
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That is odd. If she really wants to save money, skip the invitations altogether and just use Evite or something. Then at least she'll know who saw it.
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Old 12-08-2016, 02:10 PM
 
Location: Jersey City
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That is odd. If she really wants to save money, skip the invitations altogether and just use Evite or something. Then at least she'll know who saw it.
Or just get envelopes with cheap glue.

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Old 12-08-2016, 02:12 PM
 
Location: Union City, NJ
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or just get envelopes with cheap glue.
r.i.p.
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Old 12-08-2016, 02:32 PM
 
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I don't think it is weird at all. As someone who is planning one right now, I think it's more useful because #1 delivery is faster and #2 cheaper #3 easier to track and manage.

I see invitations as a "we expect you to come, and we can cover you if you do."

If you send out 100 paper invitations, people may not respond to you until months later. With an email invitation you can keep sending reminders until people say either yes or no.

Then again, my Fiancee says they are kitsch so we aren't doing them.
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Old 12-08-2016, 02:41 PM
 
Location: NJ
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i like it. i dont think its about saving invitation money, its about ensuring that people she invites will show. its a shame to have to leave some people out due to space limitations only to find out that enough people couldnt make it that they could have been included. so now either they dont go our you send out late invitations to a 2nd tier group thus making it clear that they are a 2nd tier group.

its very old person of you to be so shocked by it. i remember my wedding and later events i threw for my mother and all her friends who love to pick apart and judge everything that everyone does.
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Old 12-08-2016, 03:46 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania & New Jersey
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Default Times Sure Are Changing!

Like CaptainNJ, I like it. It shows a conscientiousness on the part of the planners that is all too often lacking nowadays. But I think you've missed the biggest reason.

OP did not say this is about saving money. Jaymoney merely introduced it as a possible reason, but many respondents have accepted that as a given. Not necessarily so.

Ansky rightly asks how many people even read their email anymore. Don't stop there! Regarding Millennials, how few read their US Mail?

My kids may grab the snail-mail out of their boxes once or twice a month... and then there's no assurance it'll be read. In the 21st Century, snail-mail is about as relative for their generation as a telephone party line is for Boomers. They're both archaic methods of communication!

Want to make certain you'll not get timely responses from Millennials? Then use snail-mail! The best bet to get timely responses may be with a facebook event page or better yet... tweet, tweet!
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Old 12-08-2016, 03:47 PM
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Location: The Sand Hills of NC
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Does everything have to be done via computer? What's next, you take your smart phone into the bathroom and when you're done you click on WMA and that's it?

Young people!
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