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"Being lazy"? Why do people feel it's necessary to make a conscious effort to have a mixed bag of friends? As several people have mentioned above, IMO, it's about common interests- not about common skin color or common ethnicity. My kids have friends who are white, black and asian, as do my wife and I- we didn't actively work to develop that blend of friends- it just happened.
That's cool and the way it should be, Bob. You like who you like because of shared values and interests...and that's great. I'm that way too. I think the problem arises with some when they falsely think that ONLY their race, ethnicity, religion etc. can MEET those needs.
I don't think it is true different groups don't mix in NJ. I grew up in Jersey City, the most diverse city in the state and one of the most diverse in the country. I have friends of all different races and ethnicities and I see the same all over the city. It has more I think to do with your comfort zones and interest. It might also have to do with where you were raised to some degree. Even with in the city the neighborhoods that are less diverse tend to have less friends of different groups. You can easily find many mixed groups of people if you walked around Newport Mall in my city. Even my high school was the most diverse in the state and many different nationalities hung out together.
Funny you say "especially in northern NJ" because that's the diverse part of NJ
I see a lot of kids hang out with all sorts of groups. I do see more that don't though... IMO the white people in northern NJ segregate themselves from other races. Black's too. Hispanics are everywhere, though they tend to have their sections too.
Really, no state will you find a white person living next to a black person following a jewish family who's in front of a spanish family.. it just isn't common yet.
It's kind of ridiculous because some Black people can afford better places then the ghettos some live in
and some White people live in places they can barely afford to live in.
^ Just to be with they're own group of people
Hispanics are the closest ones to not segregating themselves.
I would never assume that people can afford to live in a better neighborhood.
That is very presumptuous.
Minorities may have legit reasons for searching for a place to live that has many of the same.
Some of the threads here on city-data don't really reflect the reality of living in NJ. Especially the religious targeted inquiries. There is not that much religilous segregation expect in the case of the extremes.
In real life I have never heard a reformed Jew ask about how many jews there were literally in two side by side communities. Most people don't care.
Really, no state will you find a white person living next to a black person following a jewish family who's in front of a spanish family.. it just isn't common yet.
Maybe no state is like that but my block was like that so are some neighborhoods. I had Italian, Philipino, Puerto Rican, Ecuadorians, Irish, African American, Guyanese, Jamaican, Dominican, Egyptian etc. all with in a short walk on my block of where I lived in the Heights.
I don't think it's just kids.. many adults do the same.
I think adults do it MORE so. Kids are more colorblind, imo.
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