I live in lake Hopatcong. If you have an option to be at work by 10:00AM, leave as close to 9:00AM as possible, traffic on I-80 EAST decreases to almost none by then.
It's a GREAT area to raise the kids (mine are the only reason I still live in this state), especially if you like outdoors/nature type stuff. Schools are average, nothing to write about in terms of academics, but little violence or drug use, at least by average American standard. I feel safe sending my kids to these schools, even if I'm not confident they will get the best education Otherwise, like you said, it's a pretty boring places. Safe, but boring.
Oh and I hope you like bears
Seriously, don't freak out - they are harmless. Just don't leave your garbage out overnight.