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So basically it seems as if my income wouldn't be worth moving back to NYC, but what about my heart. What about the possibilities of increasing income and career moves.
Maybe I should wait until kids are older and maybe rents go down. Decisions.
I also figured that my salary would increase being that its NY also, but maybe I am wrong.
I'm not sure about your field, but I wouldn't count on huge salary bump for moving to NY and any increase in salary is surely going to be absorbed by the cost of living increase. You'd probably have to make double to keep the same lifestyle you have now. And there is no way with the current economy your going to make double.
With little in savings and no jobs already lined up, I think NY sounds like a recipe for spending a lot of money on a move and ending up back in NC in worse shape than you are now.
Have you considered moving to a more exciting area in NC where you could keep your current jobs? Charlotte has to be a lot more exciting than say .... Greenville? I'm not sure where you live, so maybe you already live in a NC "city", but could this be an option?
No more NC for me, I am going to wait to see if DC or Maryland comes thru, if not I will hold off as long as possible with NYC until I can't take it anymore.
No more NC for me, I am going to wait to see if DC or Maryland comes thru, if not I will hold off as long as possible with NYC until I can't take it anymore.
Dont rule out NoVa either (if you can find a job without a clearance, or can get a clearance). Its a tad too suburban for NYers mostly, but its still got gads of ex NYers, lots of activity, and great proximity to DC (and NYC is weekendable)
-follow your heart. that feeling will not go away. no matter what anybody tells you.
-i know how it feels to be miserable and to live someplace you really don't want to live. its hard to even exist at a certain point and get up in the morning. then when you follow that advice of coming here for a week you won't wanna go back. everybody down there will seemingly be going through the motions of living. moving in slow motion... (no offense to southerners at all). you'd actually feel worse after returning, IMO.
-dc rent is on par with ny rent, afaik
-the dmv area is great...but its not ny. if ny is in your heart, living in dc or the dmv area won't solve this problem.
-start saving what you can now and job hunting, which you already said you've done.
-the job market is terrible everywhere. i wouldn't pick up and go regardless of whats in my heart. you also have to use your head. i'm sure you already know this.
-charlotte won't solve your problem either. while its more exciting than other areas of nc, its not really exciting at all. had you come from a similar smaller city like say...raleigh then charlotte might be fine for you. but with ny in your heart, charlotte solves none of your issues except finances.
mass transit there is terrible, you'll still drive everywhere, amenities in comparison are mediocre, etc. it would be a lateral move. more of the same. the job market is terrible there too.
quick question, how old are your two children? i might have missed where you said their ages.
Right, I moved from NY when I was 23 without kids, so I meant the lifestyle with kids. Yes I can buy a nice house out here that is true, but its boring and cultureless, so tired of driving everywhere. I actually like walking. But yes, the thought of struggling on public transportation with kids is there. That is why maybe Queens could be good. But good points.
Yeah I get it. Typical suburbia is dull compared to city life, and car culture is overrated. It's just with small kids it gets harder and less practical to get away from it, especially when they're not old enough yet to see themselves around most of the time. I suppose once they became old enough to not need daycare and constant supervision it would get much easier.
-follow your heart. that feeling will not go away. no matter what anybody tells you.
-i know how it feels to be miserable and to live someplace you really don't want to live. its hard to even exist at a certain point and get up in the morning. then when you follow that advice of coming here for a week you won't wanna go back. everybody down there will seemingly be going through the motions of living. moving in slow motion... (no offense to southerners at all). you'd actually feel worse after returning, IMO.
quick question, how old are your two children? i might have missed where you said their ages.
Oh Wow. You are so right about how visiting and coming back makes it even worse. Yes!!! I have to struggle to get on the plane, holding back tears in my heart.
Yeah I get it. Typical suburbia is dull compared to city life, and car culture is overrated. It's just with small kids it gets harder and less practical to get away from it, especially when they're not old enough yet to see themselves around most of the time. I suppose once they became old enough to not need daycare and constant supervision it would get much easier.
I guess I am learning alot about my self these last few years. I like the city. I need the city. The rush, the noise and the people. People look at me like I am crazy in NC. I talk too loud, I curse too much, I am too real.
I asked my mother her thoughts and she said she wouldn't raise little children in the city, thus why I was raised in Queens until I turned 13 and then Harlem. As for Daycare in NYC my sister runs a daycare so that wouldn't be a problem.
Yes car culture is overrated. I like it don't get me wrong. But not ALL the time. There be days when my legs aches to walk. And I tried walking but its not the same when you have to watch out for cars on the street bein sidewalk space is minimal to none. I remember when I was young and couldn't wait for a car, now I just want to walk. You miss a lot by being in a car.
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