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I need help. I am a beautiful, slim, black, educated female in Queens, NY and have been single for way too long. I think I am at the desperation point. I need a date or something. I am starting to think there might be something wrong with me, I am starting to feel depressed and lonely and don't know what to do to find an eligible man in NY. Am I doing something wrong? Please help.
Girl...trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. Been in your shoes, not too long ago. Most of my girlfriends that are still in NY, in their 30s, attractive, very successful in their careers, and totally have it together, and they are single. Very single. When I was in NY, i was dating but these men did not want to settle down. NYC has been, and will continue to be, the place to make money and to be single--indefinitely. I don't know what to tell you. But basically, you've got millions of other women in competition with you. The men in NY work hard and play hard. If you want to settle down, move to the country.
I think the question has to be: What have you done so far? It's largely a matter of what sort of things you do to meet people. I'm in favor of joining a few groups, taking a few classes, volunteerting for a political candidates. There are certainly those options in abundance in NYC.
I need help. I am a beautiful, slim, black, educated female in Queens, NY and have been single for way too long. I think I am at the desperation point. I need a date or something. I am starting to think there might be something wrong with me, I am starting to feel depressed and lonely and don't know what to do to find an eligible man in NY. Am I doing something wrong? Please help.
If I lived in NYC I could solve your problem.
But I don't.
well, like another poster said. right off the bat with "i am a beautiful...." gives a neg impression. some guys like conceited girls, many many dont. i personally, i stay as far away from that type as possible.
Doesn't give me a negative impression...in fact, even if it's not true...you're ruining my fantasy!
Why would a man settle in NYC? If I am making it in NYC then obvious I am a successful guy. Maybe we can hang out, but unless you are a 10, then why would I stick around when five other 10s just walked by as single as you.
As I age, I keep on getting more successful and the women just keep getting younger.
How will you ever know for certain if a woman only wants to spend time with you for your money? Don't you want to be appreciated for more than your material success? Seriously, do you have anything more to offer? It seems kind of sad to me that you're content with a woman (more like a series of women) with so little life experience and wisdom. It takes time to develop those traits.
How will you ever know for certain if a woman only wants to spend time with you for your money? Don't you want to be appreciated for more than your material success? Seriously, do you have anything more to offer? It seems kind of sad to me that you're content with a woman (more like a series of women) with so little life experience and wisdom. It takes time to develop those traits.
Again, you are assuming I flash money or something.
Want to know a good way to test if a woman is with you for a meal ticket? Go out to lunch, 1st date or 2nd date, and as the bill comes, push it across the table and watch for her reaction.
Obviously I wish to be appreciated for more than material success. I have more to offer as well, but you have missed the point.
Men with options, why should they settle down?
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