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LOL, true, even the most confident women at times has that one guy that messes them up, they beat themselves up for it, and make you pay the price for it.
Lol like shild support right? Most of my buddies are paying for that right now because of investing there time with these NYC ladies. Somebody screwed up along the lines. This is the reason why I prefer out of town girls or go out of town to meet women.
Your Mom and Sister need to be commended for that, you should take them out for dinner or something because you might have been playing "tag your it" in child support payments if you f'd her.
I'm in the same boat as you, pretty similar age/background/education.
I used to find it difficult to find women, but the older I get it just gets easier and easier, the thing is women from the northeast just don't really cut it imo. Depending on the circles you hang in, you will come across jaded depressed women, who are finding things aren't as easy for them as it was in their early/mid 20's. Alot of the girls who ran through all of your friends/neighborhood try to snag you/settle down with you because of where your headed...just stay away.
People tend to say the same thing to me and a few of my friends, "hey how come you guys don't have kids?" hey maybe we're trying to build wealth and have some experiences outside of the tri state area.
I think it really just comes down to the circles and where you find women at, too many threads like this...too many guys with a case of oneitis. If your under 25 (or 30) for that matter, don't get into a serious relationship! that should be common sense, and allways strap up!
This. I get this question all the time as well (as a male in his late 20's who takes care of himself) like "Why don't you have kids yet" or "Why aren't you married" instead of questions like "Have you finished school?" or "What are your future goals?"
It all goes back to that ghetto mentality. Here I am in my late 20's unmarried with no kids, and then there are young 21 year old girls with 2 kids from 2 different relationships.....it's like all these girls missions is to get knocked up! lol.
It's like maybe some of us want to be financially stable first? Or get our degrees first? Or get a good job first before anything else?
As you said, many people's priorities are mixed up....
LOL, true, even the most confident women at times has that one guy that messes them up, they beat themselves up for it, and make you pay the price for it.
LOL, just remember her case of a past oneitis = her baggage. If she has the confidence then let her deal with that on her own. I don't pay the price for anyone else's, I just say next and keep it moving
The ratio of chicks-to-guys here is so skewed. This morning I walked down Park Avenue to Starbucks in Murray Hill and was passing hot chicks at a rate of about 10/minute, which is ridiculous. Meeting women is a "contact game"; i.e. the more women you meet and talk to the higher the odds you will score a date. Just go to a local gym and start talking to random girls or go to a coffee shop and do the same. When I loved up here before as a med student I had no spare money at all (was living off of student loans) but I had no trouble at all meeting girls and going on dates. Its as simple as striking up a conversation and being confident (not to be confused with arrogance, which is a big turn-off for most girls). Girls can sense it when you are confident, and that is a big, big turn-on for them. Sure, you'll have your gold-diggers who will immediately want to know what you do for a living and where you live, but overall I found the women of NYC to be great. Gotto to remember that most of them are from other parts of the country. I think that if you're having trouble meeting women here you're probably doing something wrong.
Just go to a local gym and start talking to random girls
the rest of your post was great except for this part.
OP, please don't hit on girls at the gym, most of them are there strictly to work out and you could potentially get in trouble. i have a friend that works at a gym and she has told me first hand that girls have actually complained to mgmt about guys that have bothered them at the gym.
the rest of your post was great except for this part.
OP, please don't hit on girls at the gym, most of them are there strictly to work out and you could potentially get in trouble. i have a friend that works at a gym and she has told me first hand that girls have actually complained to mgmt about guys that have bothered them at the gym.
rest of the advice in the post was good tho
I completely disagree with you. I'm not saying to start hounding girls at the gym, but you can usually tell when a girl is open to talking. For example, if your stretching next to her on the mats and make eye contact, smile and say something harmless. More times than not they will say something back and you can spring up a conversation. Or if your both squatting in squat racks next to each other ask her in-between a set if she plays a sport. Easy as that. Obviously if a girl has headphones on and seems super-intense you don't want to bother her. Its not rocket science. A smile and harmless comment goes a long way. I think where most guys screw up is that they make it seem like they are hitting on the girl. Not a good idea. You want to strike up a harmless conversation and make her feel comfortable and go from there.
I completely disagree with you. I'm not saying to start hounding girls at the gym, but you can usually tell when a girl is open to talking. For example, if your stretching next to her on the mats and make eye contact, smile and say something harmless. More times than not they will say something back and you can spring up a conversation. Or if your both squatting in squat racks next to each other ask her in-between a set if she plays a sport. Easy as that. Obviously if a girl has headphones on and seems super-intense you don't want to bother her. Its not rocket science. A smile and harmless comment goes a long way. I think where most guys screw up is that they make it seem like they are hitting on the girl. Not a good idea. You want to strike up a harmless conversation and make her feel comfortable and go from there.
This, and please, for all our sakes....men, learn to understand when a woman responds to your comment just to be polite. Nine times out of ten, if she just says something short and sweet and then looks everywhere else except at you, or if she smiles/laughs nervously....walk away. Please.
This, and please, for all our sakes....men, learn to understand when a woman responds to your comment just to be polite. Nine times out of ten, if she just says something short and sweet and then looks everywhere else except at you, or if she smiles/laughs nervously....walk away. Please.
the rest of your post was great except for this part.
OP, please don't hit on girls at the gym, most of them are there strictly to work out and you could potentially get in trouble. i have a friend that works at a gym and she has told me first hand that girls have actually complained to mgmt about guys that have bothered them at the gym.
rest of the advice in the post was good tho
I agree Gym is the worst place to meet women but it also depends on what part of the gym or what work out regement that is mostly male or female. If its at a wieght room or in a cardio room with machines its very likely women would make contact unless she needs help with her wieghts or the machine and boom she goes back into her workout, two lots of women have earphones plugged into thier ears. If its a Yoga class or aerobics lots of women are in there working out so might be a chance to strike up a convo. But me I lift wieghts and do cardio so I usually dont talk to women unless they talk to me first, I dont want to disturb them. I will try yoga to improve my options, espically since yoga is popular among transplant women.
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