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I think because in NYC people want the best of the best so they are afraid to settle in case someone better comes along. In other places there are only so many people so you get whats good as soon as you can. Also most Ny-ers live here for their job/dream so getting married, having 2.5 kids, a dog, and house with a fence is not their priority.
This is really it in a nutshell. I'm guilty of it, too (although I'm still a bit young and have some time), but I see so many people who are afraid to settle. Everyone is holding out for their millionaire/supermodel/dream person.
Yeah you probably need a gf or very least a lady friend who you can hang out with from time to time but also increases your sex appeal and desire from other women here, from my experience and observation women do tend to take notice and appreciate a guy when he is with a woman walking down the street. They are plenty of lonely people here in NYC, I should say single people in matter of fact. My advice to you is to probably find something you belonging too, be part of some sort of group, organization and or even subculture, look hipsters and ghetto people, those folks are always in relationships due to the fact they are part of a belonging, but once your a man on the outside people think you are weird. Another thing in this city everyone is looking to find something better, with so much people everyone assumes something is better out there, someone with more money, a career, more physically fit, bigger butt and boobs, better at sex, bigger penis, her family is well off, etc, sad but it is true, you will constantly find women here who are willing to trade up or men who are looking to upgrade and sometimes even downgrade and settle, and I have seen guys do this already. Try some sort of group or organization, dont do clubs or bars since its just guys looking to score and women who are only looking for guys with money or with attractive or both generally guys like this in NYC are already taken, also avoid speed dating events, online dating etc which is similar nightlife club bar dating scene, women looking guys with money or good looks and men looking to get laid at all means possible. Goodluck on your endeavors!
Last dont be a nice guy, emotional, and clingy, women wont out right admit it but they dont like stuff like that from guys.
I would say you can be nice but don't be too nice. But being emotional is a big no, one girl told me she dumped her boyfriend just before Christmas because he used to cry during sex and write her poems. Clinginess also a big no, women really hate that. Regular scheduled periods of physical and emotional distance is a good way to keep up her intrest.
I would say you can be nice but don't be too nice. But being emotional is a big no, one girl told me she dumped her boyfriend just before Christmas because he used to cry during sex and write her poems. Clinginess also a big no, women really hate that. Regular scheduled periods of physical and emotional distance is a good way to keep up her intrest.
That's game playing, though, and a certain point games are for kids.
If the person is right for you, you can definitely be nice. Perhaps the girl who dumped her loving boyfriend was the one with the problem, not the boyfriend?
Perhaps she isn't a girl you would like to be with long term?
You really want to be with people who will be there for you in your time of need. If someone is going to decide they feel like being distant when your life falls part, why in gods name would you even speak to that person?
That's game playing, though, and a certain point games are for kids.
If the person is right for you, you can definitely be nice. Perhaps the girl who dumped her loving boyfriend was the one with the problem, not the boyfriend?
Perhaps she isn't a girl you would like to be with long term?
You really want to be with people who will be there for you in your time of need. If someone is going to decide they feel like being distant when your life falls part, why in gods name would you even speak to that person?
I agree that being distant and emotionally cold is a good way to kill off a long term relationship, but a little bit of that might very well keep up the spark with NYC chicks whos been up and down the block since the age of 13.
I agree that being distant and emotionally cold is a good way to kill off a long term relationship, but a little bit of that might very well keep up the spark with NYC chicks whos been up and down the block since the age of 13.
Why do you want to keep up the spark which such a person? Again, if they're too strong out from sleeping with this one and that one, that's their problem.
There's something wrong with you if have to resort to childish games just to please them.
Why do you want to keep up the spark which such a person? Again, if they're too strong out from sleeping with this one and that one, that's their problem.
There's something wrong with you if have to resort to childish games just to please them.
Im not sure about Transplant women but your typical NYC women operate differsntly when if comes to courtship, what whitlock describes is very true. Everything will be alright when she introducez you to her kids.
City people tend to be those who are single. Even a large like new york has families and singles. Many people move to the city for a single life. Likewise, suburbs tend to have a lot of married people and few single people. Plus its a buzy city, you think this is houston where everyone is friendly and everyone is stuck in the 50's where they would know their neighbours?
Why do you want to keep up the spark which such a person? Again, if they're too strong out from sleeping with this one and that one, that's their problem.
There's something wrong with you if have to resort to childish games just to please them.
Not necessarily, what you call childish games seem to work on some type of girls in NYC as sad as it sounds.
Not necessarily, what you call childish games seem to work on some type of girls in NYC as sad as it sounds.
I agree, stuff like this creates drama, city women love it, it gives them a challange.
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