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I see the "yes ma'am, sir" thing in my area but there are a lot of newcomers who don't really get that yet. But as soon as people become deeply attuned to American culture they say good morning and good evening in the elevator and on transit.
Majority of non NYers are blindly rude. You don't stand in the middle of the side walk with your entire family blocking traffic and expect people to walk onto the road around you. Alot of tourists don't have the concept they are sharing the sidewalk. Many southerners have this standing your ground mentality. Including driving in the streets.
Majority of non NYers are blindly rude. You don't stand in the middle of the side walk with your entire family blocking traffic and expect people to walk onto the road around you. Alot of tourists don't have the concept they are sharing the sidewalk. Many southerners have this standing your ground mentality. Including driving in the streets.
Exactly! They don't see it as people are having to navigate around a lot of people and then when they block the way, they make it even worse.
Yes, they do have this stand your ground mentality. I have become pretty concerned about some of what I see on the internet. People are so ready to shoot (and oftentimes black people are the ones they are talking about). This doesn't go to say that NYC isn't racist too.
If you are a pedestrian in Atlanta, it's like you never have the right-of-way.
ill tell u 1 thing I have been living in nc for 8 years and ny drivers are the worst!!!lol I'm from the bx and everytime I come up to nyc to visit family its just crazy. the perception of ny being rude is just because you have to be aggressive in ny as opposed to being in the south. if not you will get taken advantage of in ny.
One, like you say, native New Yorkers or just people who've lived here a long time tend to be direct and to the point, which is perceived as rude in some parts of the country.
Two, the city attracts extremely ambitious people who are trying to claw their way to the top of just about every field you can think of, and those people often actually are rude and mean.
I agree with you, I've lived here for ten years and I find New Yorkers to be very friendly.
The directness of NYers (both those born here and others who arrive from elsewhere but who have lived in the city for a long time) intimidates many. Directness defined as an ability to say what one thinks, and a lack of inhibitions in identifying one's ambitions.
NYC has a much stronger social safety net than most other parts of the USA, even the supposedly liberal San Francisco, so we certainly don't lack empathy.
Majority of non NYers are blindly rude. You don't stand in the middle of the side walk with your entire family blocking traffic and expect people to walk onto the road around you. Alot of tourists don't have the concept they are sharing the sidewalk. Many southerners have this standing your ground mentality. Including driving in the streets.
its not rudeness. Its the fact that they don't understand that in NYC one must behave on the sidewalk just as one behaves on the road. This is a dense walking city so they has to be flow in how people move around. To them the sidewalk is like a mall.
I however lack sympathy if someone from a city like London or Paris does this as those cities have the same issues and therefore similar sidewalk etiquette.
I also think it can go the other way. Some people in New York stereotype people from other parts of the country as somehow less then for some reason. I think we all have a tendency to see ourselves as good and others as wrong.
I cannot deny that this is true. I have to frequently tell folks that you cannot be condescending to people and expect them to vote for the candidate that you prefer. To many "fly over country" is to be ignored, except that many live there.
The directness of NYers (both those born here and others who arrive from elsewhere but who have lived in the city for a long time) intimidates many. Directness defined as an ability to say what one thinks, and a lack of inhibitions in identifying one's ambitions.
NYC has a much stronger social safety net than most other parts of the USA, even the supposedly liberal San Francisco, so we certainly don't lack empathy.
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I don't get how people in NYC are more "direct" than other places. I know so many native New Yorkers who are passive aggressive.
I've definitely seen this. I actually appreciate the directness. If someone doesn't like you, you know about it. It's better than having fake a** people around you all the time. They smile in your face but they're not nice people.
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