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Old 09-19-2013, 05:03 PM
 
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What d hell does a man has to do if he sees a female he likes and wants to talk to?
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Old 09-19-2013, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Some Airport Transit Zone
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What d hell does a man has to do if he sees a female he likes and wants to talk to?
He must ask her first : "Would you mind if I like you"?
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Old 09-19-2013, 05:24 PM
 
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he must ask her first : "would you mind if i like you"?


lmao.
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Old 09-19-2013, 05:28 PM
 
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It's freedom of speech. Feeling uncomfortable isn't police worthy. Now if they were following and harassing, that's different. But making comments about you? Pretty much harmless.
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Old 09-19-2013, 05:37 PM
 
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This lady should to happy someone actually sees her and finds her attractive.
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Old 09-19-2013, 06:19 PM
 
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It's freedom of speech. Feeling uncomfortable isn't police worthy. Now if they were following and harassing, that's different. But making comments about you? Pretty much harmless.
No one said it should be illegal. Just because something is legal doesn't mean it can't be criticized.
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Old 09-19-2013, 06:56 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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I put on my "game" face too, but lately I've become irate after recently experiencing a very dangerous encounter. I was jogging with my headphones and didn't realize that one guy started jogging with me. As soon as I saw him approaching, I quickly moved, but he had already reached out and grabbed my arm. I screamed, LET GO Of MY ARM, GET THE HELL AWAY FROM ME!!!!!!!!!! and quickly ran in the opposite direction. That experience really unnerved me, because these guys are possibly capable of taking it a step further and that's why some type of intervention is needed.
I gotta keep it real with you sista, but you sound like a paranoid Becky from the suburbs (predatory black guys huh ). That dude was probably reaching for your arm to try to get your attention since you had headphones on. You really should toughen up a bit and develop some street smarts.
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Old 09-19-2013, 07:42 PM
 
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What d hell does a man has to do if he sees a female he likes and wants to talk to?
Master Cesar Millan saids there should be no eye contact, no talking, and no touching the first time. You
should ignore her like she's not there first, and then move side way towards her, once your are next to
her, your turn your butt towards her, let her smell your butt and be the submissive one instead of the
dominant one. And then you can do other things if everything goes well. That's how you should behave if
you are well trained.

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I gotta keep it real with you sista, but you sound like a paranoid Becky from the suburbs (predatory black guys huh ). That dude was probably reaching for your arm to try to get your attention since you had headphones on. You really should toughen up a bit and develop some street smarts.
President obama saids that's crossing the red line. Even though I disagree with other things she saids, but
you can't just grab a stranger's arm(especially women) just because you want her attention. You can say
something nice or wave, but touching is a big no no unless she is someone you know.
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Old 09-19-2013, 08:41 PM
 
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I gotta keep it real with you sista, but you
sound like a paranoid Becky from the suburbs (predatory black guys huh ). That dude was probably reaching for your arm to try to get your
attention since you had headphones on. You really should toughen up a bit and
develop some street smarts.
I have to say I sympathize with the OP...and I'm no "paranoid Becky"; I'm from Crown Heights.
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President obama saids that's crossing the red line. Even though I disagree with other things she saids, but
you can't just grab a stranger's arm(especially women) just because you want her attention. You can say
something nice or wave, but touching is a big no no unless she is someone you know.
That is what bothers me along with people trying to invalidate the OP's experience. We also don't or can assume that the man who reached out and touched her meant well or was mentally ill...not that it matters.
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Old 09-19-2013, 09:34 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Master Cesar Millan saids there should be no eye contact, no talking, and no touching the first time. You
should ignore her like she's not there first, and then move side way towards her, once your are next to
her, your turn your butt towards her, let her smell your butt and be the submissive one instead of the
dominant one. And then you can do other things if everything goes well. That's how you should behave if
you are well trained.



President obama saids that's crossing the red line. Even though I disagree with other things she saids, but
you can't just grab a stranger's arm(especially women) just because you want her attention. You can say
something nice or wave, but touching is a big no no unless she is someone you know.
I seriously doubt that it went down like that. Obviously it's hard to hear someone calling you if you got music blasting in your ear, so reaching over to tap someone on the arm or shoulder in order to get their attention is perfectly normal in that scenario. Trust me, I've done it with numerous women I didn't know and I rarely got a negative reaction. She's just one of those girls that has weird views on men based on a few limited encounters that she likely blew out of proportion. Remember most guys are too chicken to talk to girls out in public.
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