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So, just wondering Tiger, should I expect that my experience in this forum might be the same or similar in real life when I move to NYC? for better or worse? Chime in everyone, anyone. Let me know what to expect out of the greatest city in the planet.
You are not bad looking at all, at most your either a 6 or 7 in NYC, in other parts of the country like in the sunbelt maybe 3 or a 4, but since your a Transplant and sophisticated your probably not much of a sunbelt person and might be highly liberal and progressive, cities like NY, SF and Boston might be the best place for you. You will probably find a man in no time in NYC, especially from career driven transplantish white men, and local well to do Jewish guys! You're going to be alright here! All you have to do now is find a 3k closet sized apartment, which has a starbucks downstairs and not to far from the Apple store!
Dress well. Dress and carry yourself like a well educated 2nd gen Asian (look at fashions of 30-ish Brown U grads) and you should have no problem attracting guys with an Asian fetish.
Not much difference between hip parts of Manhattan and much of San Francisco, so your looks would be alright and again you would probably find a man in no time unless If you are an hypergamist which Asian women tend to be at times, again I could be wrong.
I agree with you - Asian women can be hypergamists. Especially here in SF/Bay where interracial dating/marriage between caucasian men and asian females is the norm. It's a widely held belief that asian women choose caucasian males as partners to "marry up" and increase their social status (but I suppose that's true for women in general). Conversely it is also thought that caucasian men who choose asian women as partners have low self-esteem. This topic is really interesting to me, any comments? I'm very open so brutal honesty is welcome anytime - I won't get offended I promise!
You are right, Giselle Bunchen is probably a 1000. Here in NYC men will rate women so high, lie to a woman and inflate her ego by saying your a ten but really she might be a 5 just to score brownie points. Seriously guys you have to stop giving these women to much attention before their egos and self worth inflate like a balloon and before you know it she desires someone else that's more superior than you.
Hi, here in SF there is what they call "49er's" - women transplants from the east coast who move to the west who think they are a 9 but really they're a 4.
I would give her a 6.5 based off of her face pic. She is cute and asian so she will not have a hard time finding dates in NYC. Especially from the Caucasian guys. However, understand there are a lot of gorgeous women here. Especially of the latino persuasion.
That was my observation too, soooo many gorgeous women in NYC, and so stylish and really well put together. Any woman who comes to NYC will immediately know their place on the beauty scale.
I agree with you - Asian women can be hypergamists. Especially here in SF/Bay where interracial dating/marriage between caucasian men and asian females is the norm. It's a widely held belief that asian women choose caucasian males as partners to "marry up" and increase their social status (but I suppose that's true for women in general). Conversely it is also thought that caucasian men who choose asian women as partners have low self-esteem. This topic is really interesting to me, any comments? I'm very open so brutal honesty is welcome anytime - I won't get offended I promise!
This is not entirely true, many asian women come from families that are pretty well off. Since I am asian and I have many female friends that date all types. Some asian women date the type they can associate as being the most attractive or romantic to them portrayed by the media. Social status has less to do with it. Some just want to assimilate with the country and some wants the sugar daddy which is no different than many girls.
Some of my friends say that it looks just so typical for an asian to date asian so they want to change that perception.
I have dated many races and find women are women. They carry some traits of their ethnicity but overall they are the same to me. What turns me off the most is when a women stereotypes me. They assume that since I'm asian I should act asian.
A caucasian woman dated me because she wanted someone who is a traditional asian man which I am the complete opposite.
You are above average looking. How high on the scale really just depends who you are talking to. For instance, my photographer friend who only dates Asian women would probably rate you a 8.5-9. If I was judging you on whether or not I'd photograph you for my portfolio work I'd give you about a 6.5-7. It really just depends. Are you trying to compare yourself to models? Because obviously that isn't what every guy in NYC is necessarily attracted to.
You have a nice bone structure and a good foundation to work with. I can just tell by looking that the right makeup would really bring that out. I would suggest experimenting with highlighting and contouring as you could play up that bone structure. Also your eyes. That would make a huge difference although I think you are naturally pretty as well.
So much of it too is just being thin, thin, thin and well-dressed. I think it's a thing most of us women struggle with on a daily basis and, yes, it absolutely helps to have money to maintain yourself. The NYC look is something of a fit, streamlined and not 'overly done' look... modern and expressive. Living here has made me superficial in many ways. When I go back home now I always have the best hair, bag, and makeup in the room. But on this stage, even on my best day, I never feel like a standout beauty. Even if I feel amazingly beautiful. Too much competition.
The good news is every man has a different idea of what is attractive. Some men would never notice me because I'm petite. Other men adore it. Just like some may want a more 'All-American' or girl-next-door look. But I'm willing to bet there are tons of men out there that would just love your exotic look... especially if you play it up in the way I mentioned above. You are in a mecca of Asian female worship. There are literally scads of successful, high earning men in this town that prize women like you. I see it all the time. The rich white Wall Street guy/tiny sweet little Asian hottie couple lol.
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Asian women like to be submissive and adore their man. That's why many guys choose an asian female they can boss around. Ask any man who's been to Thailand.
Asian women like to be submissive and adore their man. That's why many guys choose an asian female they can boss around.
That's a myth, that's why divorces are quite high. Law firms process interracial divorces all the time because after the wedding the white guy didn't realize asian women today are high maintenance, can't cook or clean just like white girls.
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